Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:05pm
What I mean is that all major categories of home life are under control.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:15pm

So dedicating 40 hours a week (more or less) to pushing legislation through that DOES directly impact my children, as well as millions of other people, is now neglecting the upbringing of my children?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:18pm

How?

SUS

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:45pm
Yes, I think I would want the strongest possible candidate, but I am sure there are financial considerations involved. (I might want the very best candidate that $14 an hour would get me, versus the very strongest possible candidate.) I didn't make it clear but I was comparing the 40-hour-a-week nanny of the SAHM who is around a bit, in and out of the house, to the kind of nanny MannClann said she hired and thinking a SAHP could get a much less expensive nanny and still feel comfortable because there is more parental presence. Even though both nannies may be fulltime.

The nannies I knew who were college students making $10-$11 were all working full time, not always for just one family.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:49pm
So let me get this straight, is NOT having a college education fund in the bank for your child tantamont to "neglect(ing) the upbringing of your children?"

You must have been talking about much more basic needs than a college fund, I hope.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:51pm
I agree.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:01pm
Well for one thing, how many women in recent years are sah without children? I don't know of anyone who was a "housewife" who did not have children. I think there was a woman who used to post here who said she quit her job when she got married, before having kids, but you have to admit, it's highly unusual.

I don't think you've seen much of that since the 1950's, generally most women who quit their jobs do so because of their kids, not because they want the shiniest floors.

That's one decision that children are most likely the center of.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:06pm
I know you didn't ask me but it's my opinion that they should do comething constructive with their time, and not just pursue their bliss, lest others judge them and consider them a waste of oxygen.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:12pm
For arguments sake, lets try to leave the obvious exceptions out of this discussion. I'm sure it's understood by everyone that we aren't talking about people with extenuating circumstances.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:15pm
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I can think of lots of reasons why it isn't a luxury.>>>

Sure it is. MANY people have health problems or children with health problems without assistance. There are childcare facilities that care for disabled children, there are daycare centers that a child can stay in if the mother or father is disabled. Having any full time help in your home is a luxury. Many people can't afford full time help like that. I don't have a problem with anyone having full time help whether they SAH or not. None of my business. I am a SAHM and I don't need a full time nanny or a part time one at that. I would however love to have a maid.;O)

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