Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 3:43pm
ummm, because maybe they have a passion for their work (unpaid as it is?) Because maybe not everyone thinks the way to success is a fully-paid-for college education?

Both my dh and I came out of college with considerable loans. Do I have a beef with my mom who SAH my whole life? Does dh have a beef with his father taking a disabled retirement when he was still in junior high? Nah. We are supremely grateful for the guidance and love we were given as children. Somehow, our parents instilled in us a reverence for education WITHOUT PAYING OUR ENTIRE COLLEGE TUITION.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 3:47pm

But that's apples and oranges.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 4:15pm
I put in significant volunteer hours at my son's school and we don't have his education saved for. Not by a long shot.

outside_the_box_mom

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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:04pm

Did I miss something in this huge thread....but why would someone have to stop contributing if they went to work to help save for college expenses?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:20pm
Sure I have. I've also had a kid wrap her arms around me and just beg me for one more peice of candy, or to let her stay up for one more hour, or to let her have a puppy.

You can't let a child decide what is best or most important just by begging for it. Can you say Varuka from Willie Wonka???

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:22pm
Why do you assume that "following your Bliss" or volunteering or whatever for 40 hours a week automatically equates to putting everything else above the kids.

If a person can work full-time and take care of their children well, then a person can volunteer or "follow their bliss" for the same amount of time and also take care of their children well.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:26pm
What she said isn't a lie. Do you always tell your kids everything even if it isn't appropriate?
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Registered: 03-29-1999
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:28pm
Because taking out loans for college is a perfectly legitimate way to pay for it. I don't think a parent is obligated to pay for their child's education, just like I don't think every child is cut out to go to college.
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Registered: 03-29-1999
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:34pm
Excuse me, but I was responding to ahlmommies comment "I agree...ANYONE having a full time nanny....SAHM or WOHM is a luxury not a necessity."
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:50pm
I think that subthread is whether one sees a problem with this scenario:

Mom volunteers 40+hours/week at the expense of not saving for the kids' college.

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