Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:52pm
Like what? I don't mean that facetiously. I do have plans on spending some time in the classroom/school, but not 8:30-3:10, 180 days of the year. I have a house to keep, a small amount of bookwork and banking to do, a garden to care for, and books to read. Exactly what do I have to do not be considered a "waste of oxygen"?
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:58pm
Call me weird but if I were going to tell my kid that I'm doing "errands" when what I"m really doing is going to play tennis then have a facial and a massage, I'm not telling the truth. And I wonder why you think it's not "appropriate" to tell the kids that mom is going to get a facial? hmm...
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 5:58pm
What they are doing those hours is not as important as what they are doing the rest of the hours. If a WOHM can spend those hours out of the home and still be the primary care taker by taking care of their childs needs when they are home than so can a SAHM.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:04pm
So I guess if you want to try to get laws passed that will help your children you have to get a job as a lobbyist. Lobbyist=good, unpaid volunteer=bad.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:07pm
Sheesh - I tell my kids "Daddy and I are going to lay down for a nap". Sould I really be telling them "Daddy and I are going to have sex now"?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:12pm
Being the center of is different then it being only about the kids. I was replying to a poster that said the only reason that she SAH was to spend more time with her children. Spending more time with my children was more a bi-product of me SAH then the main reason.

There may not be many woman that SAH prior to children (although I do know two) but there still are quite a few that remain at home when the children are grown which shows that it is not always all about the kids.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:16pm
and look at all the kids of celebrities that turned out fine, that list is probably much longer.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:17pm
No, you took a huge leap there. I wasn't talking about children needing to take out college loans because Mom had a full-time nanny and she was off saving the world. I was simply saying that it is ridiculous to expect every parent to Just Say No to volunteering because they haven't yet built up a college fund for each of their children.

And for the matter, I swear my mother spent 40 hours a week decoupaging when I was a kid. I saw no direct benefit in my mother's decoupage fixation and now I am irritated every time I see her basement and the eight hundred stupid Holly Hobbit domed plaques on the wall. But I certainly don't resent her for my student loans.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:18pm
Sensible analogy. NOT!

Look, if you think it's fine to get a nanny to watch your small children so you can volunteer, go to the spa, play tennis, lunch, or follow your bliss in whatever way you see fit for the majority of the day, you go right ahead, but don't expect me to think you're not selfish if you do.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:20pm
I disagree.

But you don't have to convince me, go tell it to the kids whose moms have better things to do.

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