Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:24pm
I guess I am neglectful parent. When I was a SAHM I volunteered and my children have no college savings. But I now have two girls in college.
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:24pm
Oh I don't know, I guess something more than indulging your every whim and following your bliss.
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:25pm
I don't believe there needs to be any logic that you or I believe is acceptable. If the parent wants to stay at home and employ a nanny it's their business and I don't want or need to understand the logic behind it. What's logical to one is not neccesarily logical to another.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:32pm
You got a fulltime nanny or put your children in daycare so you could volunteer for 40 hours a week instead of taking a paying job? Wow.

You do realize that's the scenario we're talking about, not about the few hours a week most of us volunteered when our kids were little which didn't require childcare.


Edited 2/17/2004 6:34:30 PM ET by islimshady

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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:41pm
It's not like you to be this schmaltzy, Slim. Of course DS has asked me not to go places sometimes. I would have absolutely no trouble at all telling him I was going to be playing tennis were I to play, because I'm entitled to have time to myself just like he is.
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:50pm
You didn't mention 40 hours in the post I was responding to. My kids were in day care about 4-12 hours a week while I volunteered. By your post since we did not have a college fund it was selfish to spend that time volunteering and not being paid.
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:52pm
My nanny's English is fluent enough that we can communicate without issue. I responded to the question of English as her first language with a "nope" since she was born and raised in Mexico before moving here 15 years ago. I also speak Spanish but don't need to with her as again, her English is very good.

Her English is certainly good enough to articulate all issues around our children, to talk to emergency folks if need be, etc.


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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:56pm
Nope, I wouldnt see it as a "luxury" if the service cost anything under $40k a year. I'd still consider it a requirement. I work long hours, even though I work 2 days from home.

If I didnt work, I'd want a part time nanny, even at $15-17 per hour. But the fact is, no one around here pays a nanny that much so it isnt an issue.

MM (as for "even in NCAL" in terms of cost of living...look at a cost of living index. With the exception of some areas on the East Coast, most of NCAL is extremely expensive, compared to the rest of the country. And San Francisco is still one of the most expensive cities in the US to live. Even with the dot com implosion. And none of my friends and family who live in San Fran pay *their* nannies more than $13 per hour...)

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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 7:50pm
Yeah, I have too, maybe once a month if that, certainly not everyday, all day when I sah. But then again, I really did SAH, or took my kids with me most of the time. It wasn't like I used my kids as an excuse to quit my job so I could concentrate on following my bliss. I quit my job so I could take care of them, not so I could hire someone else to do it for me, if I was going to hire a fulltime nanny I would've continued working.


Edited 2/17/2004 7:56:46 PM ET by islimshady
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 7:54pm
Well I'm surprised. Really. I'm just shocked that you put your kids in DC so you could volunteer. I had no idea that you were so benevolent.

I put my kids in preschool, like most other people, and then did some volunteering in that free time, but I would never have put them in daycare to volunteer, we aren't wealthy enough for that.


Edited 2/17/2004 7:58:36 PM ET by islimshady

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