Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
| Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm |
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?
Any comments?

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"My cause over my family at all times" is wrong.
But equally wrong is "My family above my cause at all times."
My children's wants to do not always take precidence over other people's needs (even strangers) and I think teaching that lesson is as important as paying for their college educations.
MM
I don't see how such an assumption serves anyone or anything but you, particularly since it is more than a little obvious that if it really were "understood by everyone that we aren't talking about people with extenuating circumstances" that you wouldn't have so many responses bringing up exactly that.
Just because it's easy for you to paint complex situations with a simple, wide one-size-fits-all brush, doesn't mean that the rest of us should simply pretend your point is valid when it clearly isn't in far too many cases.
We are very lucky people. Dh and I both come from middle class backgrounds. We have nearly everything we ever dreamed about having. I know lots of people think people who are affluent are evil selfish people, but dh and I are so very thankful for all that we have. And we realize that we are LUCKY to be where we are right now.
As a result we both feel it is important to give something back to our community. Because we can. Not everybody can sacrifice time that would be used to earn much needed money for their family. But since I don't work I CAN give back to the community in different ways. And I do. And I feel that the community that I live in is a strong community BECAUSE of the spirit of volunteerism that exists here.
Although I do not feel it benefits my children directly, the indirect benefits are substantial. They have a school with lots of extras because volunteers worked to provide those extras. They have a lacrosse league that is fun because of the volunteers. They have a great football team which is run 100% by volunteers. And there are a myriad of other volunteer organizations that exist here that make this a great city to live in.
I don't expect others to sacrifice their income earning hours if they cannot afford it, but it really makes me angry when the great spirit of volunteerism that exists in this country is trashed as selfish and useless.
Jenna
Of course not... but my point was not to tell the truth all the time but to acknowlege that if you're not telling the truth, then it's a "lie."
It sounds like he's doing alot.
I choose to spend some of my time away from my children as well. But I am not working. I volunteer, and go to the gym and run errands, but I am away from my children for some periods of time that are not necessary. I fail to see the difference, except for the fact that I am gone from my kids many fewer hours than I was when I was working.
Do you see AH parents as slaves to children? That is NOT why I am home. I do feel being home benefits each family member in a different way. And if it were harmful to the kids I wouldn't do it. However, I am not here merely to serve the kids. I get to have my own life as well. And my life includes some activities that are for ME ONLY. I don't see why that should offend you so much. I also make sure dh takes time for his activities (in fact I have insisted that he do so) and that dh and I take time for each other sometimes. I feel that it is very important for parents to maintain their own identities as adults regardless of work status.
Jenna
So only the husbands should be slaves to their homes and family? Afterall, the working spouse has to get their butt to work every morning and put in a full day to support the home and family, why shouldn't the SAHM work as well (by work I mean caring for the kids and home, etc)? Why should she get to pursue her bliss, or play everyday?
When I SAH, I was so thrilled to have the freedom to do what I wanted and go where I wanted to go (albeit with my kids), and not be tied to a schedule and the responsibilities of a job that I truly think it's asking a little too much to be relieved of the burden of caring for my kids on top of that. My husband doesn't have the choice of of getting a facial, reading a novel, or playing tennis during a workday, why should I?
I think if a SAHM can't even assume the responsibilities the position entails (caring for your kids, first and foremost), and really believes she deserves play time or freetime or just not to have to take care of her kids, then she can add the name "princess" to her title.
Not really...it's his father that made the millions...my friend's dh doesn't even work.
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