Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:39pm
"If hiring a nanny to care for one's children is considered neglect, then you'd best turn yourself in. You have made it clear you are choose to WOHM. Therefore, you are CHOOSING to leave your children in a situation that you are now claiming to be inferior to your own care. You simply cannot have it both ways."

WHAT are you talking about? NO ONE said hiring a nanny is considered neglect, even a sahm with a nanny to HELP her is not neglecting her children. What some of us have said is, leaving ones children 50 hours a week to pursue unnecessary or frivolous activities is what we would consider neglect. I don't consider a job to be an unnecessary activity AT ALL!

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:44pm
OK, that's an entirely different situation. You didn't pay for childcare so that you could volunteer, you volunteered so you could fill a need for your daughter.

My sister has her son in a cooperative preschool which requires parents to volunteer in the school. She does this so she can afford preschool for her son, not because she's so altruistic and giving that she wants to care for other people's children. It's a way for her to provide something for her son.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:50pm

My quibble is not with volunteering.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:53pm
If you don't agree with giving into people's whims, then why should the mom be allowed to let her whims take precedence?

My kids went to preschool too, and if I had a doctors appointment, I wouldn't cancel it if they wanted me home with them.

But I most certainly wouldn't take off everyday to go and pursue some leisure activity for myself if my children preferred my company to a babysitters. On the other hand, I would have felt tremendously guilty being the only person in the family paying a sitter so that I could go and have fun, so I was never in that situation. I even chose my gym because it had good childcare. I'm not high maintenance and I'm not demanding, I can't tolerate the whiny princesses who are. I don't "need" to have "me time" everyday so I can sit and read a novel in the middle of the day. I know people who do.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:53pm

I'm not saying that by volunteering, the care the children get is any worse from the caregiver.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:54pm
Most of Minnesota is "generally inexpensive" compared to other parts of the country, but there are some rather hideously expensive areas in and around the Twin Cities area. Much more so than you might imagine on first glance.

And given the fact that, if you're a professional nanny, you're probably NOT going to think to yourself, "Y'know, I should head to Minneapolis! Yeah! That's the place for nannies!" when there's NYC and LA and other WAY more obvious places prime with opportunities for nannies.

Take a look on one of those real estate cost of living comparison things for Minneapolis, St. Paul and various 'burbs thereabouts--it's very eyeopening.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:55pm
I am morally obligated to pay for at least a part of my childrens' education.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:58pm
Wait, you must mean Mexicans, not Mexican Americans. Mexican Americans shouldn't need a green card, should they? Doesn't the American half of that descriptor imply citizenship, if not natural born status?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:58pm

Ok, we are different.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 2:00pm
Good thing that wasn't remotely my point.

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