Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:34pm
This thread isn't about how much money I have or don't have. It's about choices. And ALL of us make choices to be away from our children for things that are not absolutely necessary. And you working and me volunteering are both things that we do NOT have to do that take us away from our children for part of the day.

The point I was trying to make is that yes, parents have a right to spend their time as they choose. And choosing to spend time away from your children for things that are not necessary is not the exclusive domain of parents who work.

Jenna

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:35pm

Is there a reason a lower middle income family cannot volunteer at night when the kids are asleep, or on the weekends?

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:37pm
Wow, I find that sentiment extremely scary. That there are people out there who care so much about themselves and their own over the needs in a community, in a world.

I can see the volunteers down in the special ed room at school dropping their valuable support to go work at WalMart and KMart to sell nail polish to the masses. I can see the guy down at the police station who gives tours of the police station and tickets those in handicapped parking spots quitting his volunteer position so he can work at McDonald's so he can contribute to his grandchildren's college funds. I can see the choir director at church chucking her responsibilities to work at the music store for $8 an hour for the next fifteen years so she can send her stepchildren to one semester at the U.

So now, on top of giving no value to SAH, you seem to give very little value to volunteering.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:38pm
"Wow, I just can't get over how this "parental duty" supercedes the duty one has for her community or her extended family"

Sorry you can't get over it, but my children come first before my community or my extended family. Frankly I don't understand how anyone would put their community before their kids but there are all kinds I guess.

I assume a PTO in any community functions the same way, with a lot of help from parents, most of them who also work outside the home. I have a feeling it's not the moms who volunteer 40plus hours a week who are keeping the PTO afloat, I think it takes a little bit of help from a lot of people.

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:38pm

Your reading comprehension is really poor.

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:41pm
All I can say is I certainly hope your attitude is not pervasive.

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:43pm
No, I mean Mexican American's. My nanny has been here for 15 years, has had two of three kids here in the States, pays taxes, etc. She's as American as any.
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:45pm
No I'm sorry, you just want to make it about trashing volunteers, that's not what it's about. It's about leaving your children for 50 hours a week for something other than work, be it getting exfoliated or running a cancer drive, if you're away from you're children for 40 PLUS HOURS A WEEK or more to do something non essential, it's neglecting your kids.

Get over the volunteering thing, it has nothing to do with what your doing, only that what your doing isn't necessary (ie, not a job0 and it takes you away from your kids all day.

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:45pm

But where does that justification end?

SUS

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:47pm
I am morally obligated to give what I can to my community and my world, in the form of donating time volunteering, especially since I can afford to, according to my standards and goals, which do not necessarily include paying the full price of my children future college expenses.

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