Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 4:47pm

Ok, let me clarify:

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 4:52pm
Oh get over yourselves already. Do you think you're the only one here who volunteers?

I've volunteered for the Leukemia society, The Heart Association, MS, Juvenile Diabetes, St Francis church, Emmanual Episcopal church, Community nursery school, The coop nursery school, the PTO, my sons soccer team, swim team, lacrosse team, holiday food baskets, clothing drives, giving trees, homeless shelters, the Copeland scholarship fund, and that's just where I've given my time, I won't even begin to list who I've given money to.

You and Jenna act like you're the only ones who volunteer, I've volunteered plenty, and managed to do it all without putting my kids in daycare or a nannies care.

Again, for those who obviously do have some sort of reading comprehension problems, we aren't talking about your ordinary, run of the mill volunteers, we're talking about the very small minority of sahm's who leave their kids for over 40 hours a week. If that doesn't apply to you, I don't know why you're getting all bent out of shape.

Unless it does apply to you. Do you hire help so you can volunteer for over 40 hours a week?


Edited 2/18/2004 4:53:53 PM ET by islimshady

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 4:58pm
I do too.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 4:59pm

Hey, we were Army not AF but our reasoning was incredibly similar to your own.

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 5:07pm
Gee, I don't know.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 5:09pm
Oh Jenna, you poor thing, what is wrong with you today?

<"You wrote "Look, if you think it's fine to get a nanny to watch your small children so you can volunteer, go to the spa, play tennis, lunch, or follow your bliss in whatever way you see fit for the majority of the day, you go right ahead, but don't expect me to think you're not selfish if you do."

Apparently cleaning the house and taking care of the kids are the only acceptable activities for SAHMs.">

Did you not read the first sentence where i said "if you think it's fine to get a nanny to watch your small children so you can.."?

I certainly did more than clean and take care of the kids without a nanny. I went to the gym everyday (had childcare at my gym), I went shopping , I got my haircut (at a salon with daycare), I gardened (with the kids), I rode my bike (with a baby seat), I flipped through magazines while they were at the park, I got together with friends (and our kids), I went to the beach all summer and the type of volunteering I did I could do with my kids (making phone calls, making food, decorating, getting donations).

I hope you realize that resourceful people can do all kinds of things with kids without having to employ a nanny.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 5:09pm
With all due respect, it's how she thinks of herself that matters. If she is seeking citizenship, the way you are trivializing the importance of her legal status borders on the insulting. If she is happy being a resident alien, then you are attempting to make her into something she is not.

Your children's Australian citizenship isn't rubbish; it is a golden key. If nothing else, having dual citizenship is a HUGE economic advantage in today's world. By virtue of my dual citizenship, DS has an EU passport; it will effectively double his job opportunities when he is of age to start a career.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 5:19pm
Because by the very nature of it's definition volunteering implies that it is optional. You don't have to volunteer, it's not required. Despite your protests to the contrary, working if you have a job is required.

Can you tell me why you would voluntarily leave your children for over 40 hours a week if it's not to directly improve their lives?


Edited 2/18/2004 5:26:07 PM ET by islimshady

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 5:20pm
For starters, under current rules, unless the family is very large or the SAHP is disabled, the child of a SAHP isn't going to qualify for most federally-guaranteed low-interest student loans. They will have to go to the private market if they want loans.

My child can go to an expensive private college if he can demonstrate to me that he has a well-thought-out plan to pay for it, otherwise he will just have to settle for the best program he can afford. Our contributions to his college costs will be on a matching plan. Retirement funds are dependent on the market these days, and we think that making sure that he does not have to financially support us in our old age is much more important than granting his every educational wish.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 5:24pm
It's voluntary here too, but everyone goes.

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