Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:08am
Whatever. I don't know anyone who doesn't work for the money. I've yet to know someone who's refusing their paycheck. When you find that person, tell me, then we'll have something to talk about.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:08am
Based on our probable income level, even on my DH's salary alone, my children won't be eligible for loans or grants.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:09am
Forget selfish.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:10am
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I don't claim charitable deductions on my taxes, because for me personally (everyone else's mileage will vary, so don't anyone lose a shoe or anything) it's not charitable giving if I get somethint monetary out of it (i.e., the tax deduction), so I don't keep a record and have no clue how much I give every year.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:11am
"I consider it my responsibilty to take care of my own AND give back to my community."

And? I agree with you, what's the gripe?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:36am
Your "let them eat cake" attitude. That if we had more parents taking care of their children and "sacrificing," we would need fewer volunteers. That is what I was taking issue with.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:45am

My parents paid a lot towards my college education, and I believe strongly I have an obligation to pass the gift along.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:48am
So what priorities are we talking here? Yours? And applied to whom? Your family or the other family?

If we're talking your priorities for your family, I don't see the problem. You aren't living like that, so your priorities are being met.

On the other hand, I think any discussion in which some OTHER family is supposed to cater to YOUR priorities, simply because you can't grasp thinking any other way is doomed to failure. Your priorities are both meaningless and worthless when applied to any family but your own.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:49am
Well, there is some truth to that. Who do you think people who volunteer at homeless shelters are caring for? People who's own families abandoned them. I'm not saying people shouldn't volunteer, I'm saying that if more people took responsibility for their own families, there wouldn't be as great a need. That's a fact.

And I NEVER said that only people who should afford it should go to certain schools. I'm very active in fundraising for several scholarships, so I'd really appreciate it if you would knock off the unflattering and blatently wrong assumptions. Where did that come from? Certainly not me. What "let them eat cake" attitude?

FTR, we have the opposite problem with volunteers, maybe we could send some of our volunteers elsewhere, in this town they're stepping on top of eachother. The school has to constantly turn people away. Too many people with too much time on their hands.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:51am
If more parents took care of their children's needs, we would need fewer volunteers.

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