Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:19pm
Guess you missed my post immediately *above* yours. Drr..
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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:20pm
In my dreams my kids will get full scholarships, then dh and I will be able to buy that lovely little beach house that I fantasize about with their college savings.....I'm not counting on it though, looks like we'll have to find another way..
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:30pm
Why do have to volunteer for any of those organizations at the expense of spending time with your children? Why can't you do things from home, with kids, etc? It's very possible. I don't see how volunteering for any of the aforementioned causes precludes caring for your children.

You can make phone calls, you can make signs, you can solicate donations for fundraisers, you can go to the printers, you can arrange catering, you can cook or bake, you can donate a service (that you can perform on the weekend, when your husband can watch the kids), you can write letters, you can do mailings, you can collect and distribute food, you can donate blood, you can purchase gifts for underprivileged kids.

Call me crazy but taking care of my kids never stopped me from doing any of the above things. Then, when your kids are in school you can pick the jobs that you can't do with kids underfoot, whatever those might be.


Edited 2/19/2004 2:35:32 PM ET by islimshady

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:00pm
Well, as I noted before, I have accepted a temporary position that is actually costing me money. So I guess we have something to talk about?
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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:11pm
Yes, you were telling me about moms who work because they don't want to be sahps as opposed to for the money. Is that why you're doing it? Because you don't want to be a sahp?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:16pm
I have never argued once that it couldn't be done, but why does it have to be done that way? Working for self fufillment is working for self fufillment, paid or not.

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:18pm
No, that is not why I am doing it. I far prefer SAH with my kids. I am not an advocate of daycare for young children. My children are 4 and 5, and while I would prefer to be AH with them and working in my businesses, I was asked to do a favor by taking this position on a temporary basis. If it were not temporary I would not do it. My reasons for accepting it were several. Firstly, my dh is the investigator in this office. He has been extremely overworked and I was aware of cases not getting investigated due to shortage in manpower. I felt if I am in a position to relieve some of the pressure on him, and to possibly prevent a child from being at risk of abuse/neglect, I had to do it. My children will not suffer for being away from me for a couple of months. I had to weigh the pros and cons. My business will suffer and the money I make working will no where near make up for what I COULD make if I were working my business - I simply can't do both and be an attentive parent.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:23pm
Because under normal circumstances, people can't bring their kids to work with them, and if they can, they usually do. Contrary to what "it is me again" says, most parents don't work because they want to get away from their kids, they work because they need the money. They also put their kids in daycare or hire nannies because they have no other choice.

Unless you're volunteering to get away from your kids, why wouldn't you volunteer with them? That is why you're a sahm isn't it? To take care of your kids and not put them in daycare?

Well isn't it?

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:46pm
Your answer didn't address her question, which I took to be, "Why is othercare detrimental when a parent volunteers and not when they work?"
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:49pm
I don't know, I never claimed that othercare WAS detrimental.

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