Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 5:11pm
YES.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 5:16pm

But you're not volunteering for 40 hours and hiring a nanny expressly in order to do just that.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 5:33pm
I do think everyone deserves some leisure, just not 40 hours a week of it.

Some people might disagree with me though, you know, the princesses.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 5:34pm
Now I understand where you are coming from. I couldn't figure out why you get so upset over women who don't *have* to work. It's just you don't believe anyone is entitled to that.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 5:42pm
IT's not that I get upset with women who don't have to work, heck, I don't have to work, but I do. I get upset with women (and men) who don't work when they could use the money and don't even have their savings taken care of yet.

Take my SIL (please). Her kids are in school, she constantly complains that her dh doesn't make enough money, they can't save money, they don't go on vacation, etc., but will she go and look for a job? No. She comes up with every lame excuse in the book, claims there are no jobs out there (how do you know if you don't look?), and her husband would love for her to contribute financially.

Bottom line, she doesn't want to work. She wants to be a SAHM, and she wants her dh to make more money.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 5:44pm
If you get down to the most specific details they are different, but when you look at the big picture each of us is choosing to do something we see as beneficial, that is not completely necessary, that takes us away from our children.

Jenna

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 5:47pm
Are we keeping score or something? Normally I would love to give out such information but the spirit in which this question was asked really rubs me the wrong way. I have no idea what you are getting at. Is my opinion rendered invalid if I don't pay my babysitter enough or if I volunteer fewer hours than you?

How much money do you have saved for your children's education? In what investment vehicles is that money being held? What is your risk profile when making those financial decisions? How have you made sure the money is used for the purpose of college only?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 5:52pm

Why not? How

SUS

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 6:20pm
Of course I havea reason - the reason is that it is what dh and I feel is best for our family. I didn't make the decision to SAH by myself - it is a choice that dh and I have made together - if anything, dh has stronger feelings about it than me, LOL.

When I was younger, I resented the fact that my mom stayed at home. My folks were poor (no college savings for me! Dh and I have never taken any money from my folks, ever - not even for our wedding), and I just "knew" how much better my life would be if she worked. Now that I have a family of my own and am more cognizant of all of the aspects of the decision, I know it was never as black and white as I thought it was.

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 6:37pm
Some people can afford a life of leisure. Apparently you are perhaps a tad jealous that you are not in a position to do so. You don't believe that there are wealthy people, who have secured their children's college funds and their retirement funds before retirement age? There are families who do not have to work at all, just because you don't personally know any does not mean they don't exist.

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