Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 7:14pm
What I'm getting at is do you volunteer anywhere near the 40 hours a week we're talking about or pay the equivalent of what a working mom pays in daycare expenses so you can be free of your children all day.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 7:16pm
That's nice.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 7:17pm
Fine, but could you answer a question for me please? How does your staying home while your children are in school rather than working part time to contribute to your savings benefit your family?
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 7:20pm
Ha! I don't know which is funnier, that I don't know anyone wealthy enough not to work or that I don't believe there are people wealthy enough to have secured their childrens college funds and retirement prior to retirement age.

Just FYI, we belong in the latter catagory. We're all set.

It's not the people who can afford a life of leisure who I have a problem with, it's the one's who can't afford it yet insist on pursuing it. You know, the ones who think their leisure time is more important than saving for their children's college. Apparently there are loads of them. If you don't want for anything then by all means, live it up!


Edited 2/19/2004 7:27:58 PM ET by islimshady

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 7:51pm
For the record, "My Vagina is Tighter than Your Vagina" is a classic reference to the Mommy Olympics and one that predates my membership, not just to ivillage, but to ParentsPlace.com, which Ivillage bought out years ago. Nor did I coin it, nor am I the only person on this board ever to use it.

Secondly, if you're wit is that good, feel free to demonstrate it. I love a good comeback....when I actually read one, that is. When I hear someone say they had one but decline to post it, not so much. it's like the fisherman who lost the "big one". Right. Sure ya did.

And finally, you aren't attacking Mapper's position, you're utterly avoiding it. Suggesting "for argument's sake" to dismiss everything she said as irrelevant is NOT attacking her position. It's attempting to avoid attacking it, and I think we all know why you would prefer NOT to address her arguments, as you've nothing with which to rebut them.

You're just mad at me for pointing it out.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 7:55pm
Really? Then how do you explain your failure to understand its application in this situation? Heck, I've never even BEEN to Minnesota, let alone lived there, and I understood why it might be more expensive there than other places. And I'm just a lowly hourly wage employee working night shift.

As for the rest of your post...as I said, I've never even been to Minnesota, and why you would research nanny salaries for Maryland when my son is full grown is beyond me.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 8:04pm
That's very narrow thinking. Many people believe our children benefit directly from living in a society where the needs of others are important to everyone. My child absolutely benefits from living in a country where Virgo's dh, my ex, his wife and I all volunteered for the military. My child absolutely benefits from living in a country where people donate blood products for medical emergencies and even routine needs. My child absolutely benefits from a society where people volunteer to deliver food to the homebound, drive medical personal to hospitals during emergencies, feed and shelter the homeless, minister to the imprisoned, offer reading instruction to the illiterate and the millions of other volunteer efforts that take place in this country from one end to the other.

And if those folks DIDN'T put in those hours, I believe with every fiber of my being that YOUR children would suffer directly for it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 9:11pm
How can you say the benefit isn't direct? We are all directly affected, one way or the other, by the society in which we live. A society in which volunteerism is a priority and recognized as important to ALL members of society is one in which EACH member directly benefits, even if each member doesn't benefit specifically from the volunteerism itself. It's the overall social benefit of living in a society where people give a rat's butt for something other than the most selfish, basic needs.

You can pretend to yourself that benefit isn't a direct one to each member of society, but you're only lying to yourself. It won't change the fact on iota.

Frankly I shudder to imagine a world in which volunteerism is dismissed as a valuable contribution with affects the entire society as beneficial. That's one reason why Dubya needs to go; with his ilk at the helm, aided and abetted by the disgusting likes of Ashcroft and Rumsfeld, our society is heading exactly there....and the irony (if you can call something that repulsive ironic) is they're doing it under the hijacked flag of "Christian values."

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 9:18pm
I get the feeling that the only acceptable reason you can fathom for being separated from a preschooler is a paying job. Not that you actually disapprove of volunteerism, just that you feel a mother who doesn't work needs to be with her children every second of every day. And I feel strongly that there are enough hours in a day for a mother to be separated from her kids for a few of them and not suffer some sort of irreparable harm.

Jenn

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 9:19pm
So what's the right number? I do use childcare, but not 40 hours a week (not even close).

Jenna

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