Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 9:37am
I'm getting all misty...

What I'm not buying is that any of those millions of volunteers are putting their kids in daycare for 40 hours a week so they can do so.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 9:44am
But the specific post to which I was responding WAS talking about ALL SAHMs. Or did you miss that point.

Truthfully, I see a lot of your responses as being, "I don't know anyone like that." This doesn't refute anyone's point. Just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't exist or isn't possible.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 9:49am
"I don't think any SAHM should put their children in othercare for 40 hours a week so that they can pursue non essential activities."

I have been trying to point out the double standard in the above statement. Sometimes WOH is non-essential, but apparently you and PJM think it is OK to use other care for that. Or do you never view WOH as non-essential?

AND some of us think certain kinds of volunteering are essential - maybe not to my family directly, maybe so. But apparently othercare cannot be used for that either.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 9:56am
But Slim and PJM are saying that there is never a situation where a AHM should use other care fo 40 hours and be away from her kids. I brought up the volunteering as an example when I think it could be acceptable.

They disagree.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 9:58am
Well who has 40 hours a week of leisure?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 10:14am
Sorry about that; the posts crossed. Yours wasn't there yet when I started drafting mine.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 10:17am
I thought you said that we can't possibly know whether someone has a severely handicapped child, or has to care for a sick relative, or has their own health issues.

That was you, wasn't it?

Again, we're talking about SAHM's who don't NEED help, not those in the above examples who do.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 10:17am
This is as good a place in this post as any to stick this in. As for volunteering, my recent experience (with ds's school anyways) is that the WOHMs volunteer more than the SAHMs. Two reasons: First, the mom's with the "traditional" jobs (ie 9-5) take off a long lunch and go volunteer and thus any other children are already in dc or school or whatever while the SAHMs have no one to take other children (toddlers) during the day so that they can volunteer. Second, I have found that most of us moms do work. While it appears we are all sahms based on the fact we are picking up and dropping off and always "at the school" we are not. Chatting more and more with other mothers, I have found that they, too, work. There are two flight attendants that just juggle their schedules. There are two that own their own companies and thus work around the kids schedules, and another like me that works at home/freelance and can manage her schedule well.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 10:20am
It would be a very rare circumstance that I would view WOH as non-essential.

And I also think that if a person truly feels that volunteering is esential, that there are ways to do it without putting your children in othercare.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 10:24am
I know quite a few women who do. Their children are in school, they have cleaning people or housekeepers, they essentially have all day, every day to do as they please. On the other hand, their childrens college savings are intact, so they truly don't have to work. They have a lot of money.

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