Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?

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Full-time Nanny with SAHP - Why?
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:41pm
Something I've often wondered about, but never had the opportunity to ask. Why do SAHM or SAHD need a full time nanny, especially when they aren't working from home. I can easily see the need if the SAHP is a WAHP, but what is the logic for a full time nanny otherwise?

Any comments?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:05pm

"My argument is that if other care and if it is okay to work for self fufilment vs. necessity the REASONS you are away don't matter.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:07pm
And I understand that your priorities are such and I'm ok with that. My priorities are different and I think you're OK with that (maybe I'm wrong??)

I just hate generalized statements that say a person whose priorities (or actions or situations, etc. )are different than mine is selfish (or neglegent or a bad parent, etc.).

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:11pm

I don't think you're negligent or selfish or a bad parent or person to have different priorities.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:12pm
Because I'm with my children the other 128 hours a week. They aren't being neglected, they aren't suffering in anyway.

However, the XYZ charity might NEED people to volunteer during normal working days and may need more than just someone who only wants to work nights and weekends or when kids are in school.

So if I believe in that charity strongly enough and my kids are not suffering, then I will do it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:14pm
If I'm not working for 40 hours a week, I'd much rather spend those same 40 hours physically with my kids than anything else.

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:14pm
"I just hate generalized statements that say a person whose priorities (or actions or situations, etc. )are different than mine is selfish (or neglegent or a bad parent, etc.)"

A mom who's priorities include having 6 pack abs, and who works out 6 hours a day, or a mom who has the best wardrobe and who shops all day, or a mom who's addicted to gambling and goes to the casino all day, all have very different priorities than me, but I wouldn't say that doesn't just make them different. I would say that that also makes them selfish/negligent/bad parents.

So the mom who leaves her kids all day, everyday to play, she's just different? She's not negligent?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:15pm
I have not said I would never work, only that I am not planning on returning to work immediately. I do a small amount of work for our business (less than 10 hours per week), mostly bookwork, etc. The school is happy to accept volunteers for positions like crossing guards and lunch supervisors (there are no school cafeterias here), and grade one classrooms (where Jake will be next year) enthusiastically welcomes volunteers, especially to help with reading programs. We are hoping to buy an acreage in the next few months, and that will mean a significant increase in the amount of maintenance and yard work we do (our current house is on a tiny 50'X 100' lot).

I have also stated that I do not have a degree - that can be a limitting factor on the kinds of jobs available to me. Substitute teaching would be ideal for me, but is not an option.

We save monthly for our children's educations, put money aside for retirement and carry no credit card debt. Our lifestyle is modest. For now, our plans meet our needs perfectly adequately - why would it matter to anyone else?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:21pm

Trying hard not to sucked into this monster thread but something jumped out at me....


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I don't know about Canada, but many school districts in the US don't require a degree for substituting only a certain number of college credits...


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:41pm
Why does it matter if *I* personally do that or not? You aren't going to suddenly change your opinion to save face with me should we discover that I am the SAHM with the full-time nanny who works down at the homeless shelter 40 hours a week, I'm pretty sure of that. I can still hold an opinion about something and get my undies in a bunch by an opinion I deem outrageous even if I don't fit the specific category of parent being discussed. Kinda like men having an opinion about abortion.

I do know someone who fits the bill quite well. And there is no way in hell you would have the nerve to spout your opinion on this topic in front of her. She does some pretty spectacular things during the time she is away from her children.

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Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:49pm
That's okay. I actually learned something, and corrected a misconception, which is always welcome!

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