Future SAHM having panic attack

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Fri, 05-23-2008 - 10:32am

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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 10:32am
What I was talking about with toddlers and preschoolers is that it is relatively easy to find good all-day care for them if that's what you need. You drop them off in the morning and pick them up at the same place when you are done for the day. I found it much more difficult to deal with my kids during the week when they hit school age. The after-school care program wasn't very good, it was just basically warehousing kids for a couple of hours. And they constantly need to be shuttled to lessons, practices, that sort of thing. You are sort of expected to show up at school during the day at least a couple times a month for this, that, and the other thing. And they have nightly homework and science projects and out of town games and I don't know what all else.
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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 11:47am

"What I was talking about with toddlers and preschoolers is that it is relatively easy to find good all-day care for them if that's what you need. You drop them off in the morning and pick them up at the same place when you are done for the day. I found it much more difficult to deal with my kids during the week when they hit school age."


I see what you mean, wrt

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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 11:54am

I think this is a highly variable thing. My first son was an easy baby, and I'm the oldest of six siblings, I practically grew up with a baby on my hip. He wasn't much trouble at all. I actually finished writing my dissertation while he played at my feet -- he was about seven months old when I got my degree. I was stupid and thought that he did that because I was a good mother. My second son was born to raise Cain. He's my humility child. If he'd been my first, I don't know if we'd ever have had a second!

I find toddlers extremely amusing, although I didn't get much academic done when they were around. I find pre-teens to be much less amusing and more wearing. My sister-in-law is great with teens and hated the toddler stage.

I don't think there's one answer. Parenting is demanding. And wearing. I'm not sure it's "hard" in the same way that calculus is "hard," but it's time-consuming and often not particularly glamourous. And I think that goes for pretty much every age. What I meant in my original post is that if you find combining a career and a toddler hard, you are also likely to find combining a career and parenting hard at any age.

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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 4:01pm

I was bone tired last night and trying to figure out why. Then it hit me, I put the 2 little ones in or out of carseats 18 times yesterday. That's 18 times each kid. It was our anniversary good thing we had already celebrated Saturday night!

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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 11:30pm
Do you wonder how people who WOH FT in traditional office jobs have the kinds of lives they want?

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Fri, 05-30-2008 - 10:52am
Calculus = much much much easier. ;)
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Fri, 05-30-2008 - 1:35pm
Not just because they have traditional office jobs. I think that some people are really suited for traditional office jobs and flourish there. But I wonder about people who consider themselves "stuck" in any kind of life situation when there are often myriad ways of living life differently.
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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 11:19pm

Lol....my 10 y.o. has been driving me nuts lately. She is my noramlly cooperative, pleasesent and calm one. Not anymore. I think she is really feeling "growing pains".


You know it is bad when you start sounding like your mother..lol.

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Sun, 06-01-2008 - 6:58pm

I know personally, my son is just over two.

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