Girls

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Girls
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Thu, 09-25-2008 - 11:24pm

I would like to hear your thoughts on this topic - in our town - and I do not in anyway think we are unique. There are girls - who are fully capable young women - who have recently had babies. These girls are the one and two years out of school girls - all who did not leave school with a plan. None are married and only one is really in a committed relationship with the father of the baby. I have contended in more than one research paper for school that girl's sometimes get pregnant because they want their future to pick them instead of actually chasing their own dreams or making a real decision about their futures. Think about this as the range of social issues that go into this.


What are your thooughts about this? let's not do the right or wrong thing - and I don't think this is only about girls (lol cleary they are having sex with someone) I think the boys give up on themselves. So, how do we teach our children to believe in thier dreams and be willing to take action on them?

Courtney


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Courtney

There's a great big beautiful tomorrow shining at the end of every day... there's a great big beautiful tom

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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: court527
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 8:55pm

These days I'm a lot ....


"these" days?

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: court527
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 7:09am

Yup. I had my own checking account, job, chose my own classes, filled out my own paperwork for college etc. etc. etc. back in the 70's. And that WASN'T unique back then. The reason I'm impressed with kids who do it "these days" even though it used to be common is that today it's a lot less common so any teen who does it is really fighting the social norms and being far more responsible than society says is possible for a teen.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: court527
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 9:47am
A teen can learn life skills and focus on academics.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: court527
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:24am
They can if their parents will let them. The problem isn't focusing on academics. The problem is parents who think that learning life skills is a distant second
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Registered: 10-17-2003
In reply to: court527
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 8:22pm

Doesn't every generation think the current generation of young people is headed for disaster?

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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: court527
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 9:08pm
I think when colleges - top schools -

Courtney

There's a great big beautiful tomorrow shining at the end of every day... there's a great big beautiful tom

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: court527
Tue, 09-30-2008 - 8:00am
I admit I was being a classic Old Curmudgeon saying "kids these days".
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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: court527
Tue, 09-30-2008 - 8:30pm

Sorry, I meant to rely earlier but forgot. I think that you are actually agreeing with me. Princesses and "happily ever after" belong to childhood and not in the realm of adults. And I wouldn't call celebrities role models for adult behavior. Same for what is portrayed by the media.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 09-21-2008
In reply to: court527
Tue, 09-30-2008 - 10:53pm

Princesses and "happily ever after" belong to childhood and not in the realm of adults. And I wouldn't call celebrities role models for adult behavior. Same for what is portrayed by the media.


that was my point.

 

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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: court527
Wed, 10-01-2008 - 11:08am

I think that we are using the phrase "grow up" differently while still saying the same thing. I'm using it in the sense of "oh, grow up!". Think Peter Pan, the boy who refused to grow up because he didn't want the responsibilities of being an adult. One can grow up in terms of birthdays but not necessarily become an adult.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett