A good argument for staying home

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Registered: 10-06-2007
A good argument for staying home
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Sat, 10-06-2007 - 1:58pm

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:21pm
When dd was born, they gave me this yellow card with her stats and on the back it had a space to record her immunizations, as well as two small charts for height and weight that also noted rudimentary milestones. That card is her "babybook" with a few notes scribbled in the margin. Thing is, the really funny stuff I remember. I figure the rest probably was not that important in the greater scheme. Still, I did read an awful lot of child development blather (usually in the course of arguing with people, lol) and I had really never come across the hand transfer thing before.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:22pm
my point. no one here is perfect or their children are perfect,, why should this poster take advice from people who apparently haven't gotten it right

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:22pm

<No, the more the merrier.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:24pm

I got worse about writing things down with each kid.

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Registered: 07-20-2007
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:24pm

http://www.fsa.gov.uk/Pages/Library/Other_publications/Staff/staff_handbook/family/maternity/index.shtml


"Failure to return to work means you will not qualify for the return to work arrangements described below and you will be required to repay any enhanced maternity payments made to you during your maternity leave period."


http://foi.st-andrews.ac.uk/PublicationScheme/servlet/core.generator.gblobserv?id=1438


"What happens if I don’t want to return to work?


If you decide not to return to work you should inform your Head of School/Unit and Human Resources as soon as you have decided. If you do not return to work then you will normally be required to repay the enhanced element of any Maternity Pay received."


These are a couple examples of companies in the UK. If you're in the US...


http://www.dol.gov/esa/regs/statutes/whd/fmla.htm#SEC_104_EBP


"2) FAILURE TO RETURN FROM LEAVE.--The employer may recover the premium that the employer paid for maintaining coverage for the employee under such group health plan during any period of unpaid leave under section 102 if--



  • (A) the employee fails to return from leave under section 102 after the period of leave to which the employee is entitled has expired; and
  • (B) the employee fails to return to work for a reason other than--

    • (i) the continuation, recurrence, or onset of a serious health condition that entitles the employee to leave under subparagraph (C) or (D) of section 102(a)(1); or
    • (ii) other circumstances beyond the control of the employee. "

Care to prove that this poster won't have to repay any benefits and/or pay should she fail to return to work? Most companies wouldn't be very happy with an employee who takes maternity leave, because it's assumed she will come back.

Karalee
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Registered: 07-20-2007
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:26pm
that's my point.>>

Karalee
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:26pm

Here's a random list of infant milestones that are commonly reached between the ages of 4-7 months:

* Roll over both ways (stomach to back, back to stomach)
* Sit up with, and then without, support of his hands
* Reach for object with one hand using the raking gras
* Transfer objects from hand to hand
* Support whole weight when on legs and held upright
* Explore objects with hands and mouth
* Explore objects by banging and shaking
* Laugh
* Babble consonants (like ba-ba-ba-ba-ba)
* Distinguish emotions by tone of voice
* Find partially hidden objects

Thing is, most people will pick out one or two of those things -- like rolling over -- label it a milestone, then weep and gnash their teeth if they miss it. Truth is, babies are reaching important developmental milestones almost all the time, and nobody notices, the cheering squad is not alerted, and the baby still manages to develop normally as long as he or she gets enough love, food, warmth, shelter, etc.

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Registered: 07-20-2007
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:27pm

So in your opinion, only parents of wonderful

Karalee
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:29pm
Yes, I know, I know. I feel all sad inside already. Worst thing is that given her freaky coordination in general, she probably did this way ahead of time, and I MISSED IT! WAHHHH!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:34pm
I do not understand what "wonderful children" has to do with anything here. All kinds of kids have all kinds of problems. Are you seriously suggesting that WOH kids are more likely to have problems than SAH kids? If so, FTR, my dd is 15 and not pregnant yet, knock wood, sewchris has a couple of grown kids, iamfinenow has some teens at home who seem to be doing ok, ditto for Lauren1063 and there are probably more here. I am curious as to what problems we should be expecting to see in our kid, in your opinion.

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