Not obsessed at all. That poster herself has made full disclosure on this board over the last 8 years about her rocky marriage. But what does any of that have to do with being so determined to sah that one is willing to get divorced over it?
Funny how this username pops up from time to time. How many usernames do you utilize on this board?
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I think is a pretty safe bet to say if you won't discuss major life altering decisions with your partner, and not have both parties be willing to compromise for the good of the entire family, your marital prognosis is poor.
The issues for op is not sah/woh, but her inability to work towards a solution that benefits the entire family. She may be right, they might have enough money for her to reasonably sah, but she has to prove it with solid budgetary evidence; he may be right, they may not have enough to survive on one paycheck as that budget would confirm. There are many solutions to be explored in between sah and ftwoh that may solve the problem for op, if she was willing to work with her husband to find a solution both of them could live with.
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Not obsessed at all. That poster herself has made full disclosure on this board over the last 8 years about her rocky marriage. But what does any of that have to do with being so determined to sah that one is willing to get divorced over it?
Funny how this username pops up from time to time. How many usernames do you utilize on this board?
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I think is a pretty safe bet to say if you won't discuss major life altering decisions with your partner, and not have both parties be willing to compromise for the good of the entire family, your marital prognosis is poor.
The issues for op is not sah/woh, but her inability to work towards a solution that benefits the entire family. She may be right, they might have enough money for her to reasonably sah, but she has to prove it with solid budgetary evidence; he may be right, they may not have enough to survive on one paycheck as that budget would confirm. There are many solutions to be explored in between sah and ftwoh that may solve the problem for op, if she was willing to work with her husband to find a solution both of them could live with.
The solution is for her to dump his looza a$$ and find herself a man who will do the right thing.
Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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