I would suggest you check out the Personal Responsibility and Work Opportunity Act of 1996 before making that assumption, your convictions don't trump law.
Well here's another take on things -- it sounds like you clearly weren't nuts abot your current job which probably isn't makeing this situation any easier, have you thought about getting some career counseling or life coaching to think about what would spark your passion so that returning to work wouldn't seem like such a drudge? I know if I didn't go to work in a cool place each day it'd be a different story. And tonight I started my second job at the bookstore (yes -- being a single mom rolling in all that child support dough) and I was all glum this afternoon sort of dreading it and I LOVED it -- it was fun and easy and the time flew --
finding a job that sparks your passion can make a huge difference in your outlook ...and it is fully ok to likewhat you do for work -- jobs don't have to be drudery -- many of us here have careers and jobs that we absolutely adore and we're building a solid foundation for our retirement years and our kids education (well I haven't gotten her college fund all that squared away yet but I'll think of something..it's either that or bank on her having a hell of a jump shot)
Hm. Sounds like you both should have had this worked out and agreed upon *before* baby, wouldnt you say? Now you need to move forward and figure out a compromise you can BOTH live with. Not just either of you getting your way, a true compromise. Because if you can work out a way to do that, that shows a commitment to the marriage. So far your attitude doesnt seem too committed or caring, at least not going by what you have posted here.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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I would suggest you check out the Personal Responsibility and Work Opportunity Act of 1996 before making that assumption, your convictions don't trump law.
Well here's another take on things -- it sounds like you clearly weren't nuts abot your current job which probably isn't makeing this situation any easier, have you thought about getting some career counseling or life coaching to think about what would spark your passion so that returning to work wouldn't seem like such a drudge? I know if I didn't go to work in a cool place each day it'd be a different story. And tonight I started my second job at the bookstore (yes -- being a single mom rolling in all that child support dough) and I was all glum this afternoon sort of dreading it and I LOVED it -- it was fun and easy and the time flew --
finding a job that sparks your passion can make a huge difference in your outlook ...and it is fully ok to likewhat you do for work -- jobs don't have to be drudery -- many of us here have careers and jobs that we absolutely adore and we're building a solid foundation for our retirement years and our kids education (well I haven't gotten her college fund all that squared away yet but I'll think of something..it's either that or bank on her having a hell of a jump shot)
Yes. We. Did.
"Instead I'm told that only his feelings count."
No one has told you that only his feelings count.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
People, people, people.
Can we just please let this apparent paragon of motherly virtues be convinced she is right?
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