The Good Host Fluff

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 8:41pm

1. While hosting a dinner, would you knowingly serve a dish that could kill one of your guests?

2. While hosting a dinner, would you knowingly serve an entree that one of your guest hates?

3. While hosting an event, would you serve alcohol at a event that includes a number of known alcoholics?

4. While hosting an event, would you expect guests to help with the clean up?

5. If you were a tree nut, which one would you be?

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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 8:11am
1. I confess that I kind of suck at this. We have an adult family member with a peanut allergy and I took my cues from her and the rest of the family and keep peanuts out of the main dishes and foods that get passed around the table, but still have things on the dessert table. Other times, I have been told of a life-threatening allergy that can be airborne for a child and would not allow anyone in my family to touch the allergen for 24 hours before food prep started. More middle of the road, if I know of an allergy but am not aware of it being life-threatening, I have just made sure everyone has something to eat. After reading this board, I will change my approach. 2. I do serve things people don't like, but try to have a wide variety so that hopefully everyone has something. I have never hosted with just one choice for any part of the meal. 3. It depends on the gathering. If it is for a specific purpose, like a holiday or someone's birthday, I would host without the alcohol. If it is just a dinner party with friends who love wine as much as I do, I would serve the wine but either not invite the alcoholic or invite but give them the warning. 4. No clue.
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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 9:09am

1. While hosting a dinner, would you knowingly serve a dish that could kill one of your guests? No.

2. While hosting a dinner, would you knowingly serve an entree that one of your guest hates? Possibly.  If the person didn't mind being in the same room with the offending item and there was an alternative entree that I knew the person liked, I probably would.

3. While hosting an event, would you serve alcohol at a event that includes a number of known alcoholics? I don't know about that, I suppose it would depend on the alcoholic.  My parents are teetotalers, so I don't serve alcohol at family gatherings.

4. While hosting an event, would you expect guests to help with the clean up?  No, but I might accept if someone volunteered to help.

5. If you were a tree nut, which one would you be? An almond.

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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 9:17am

1. Kill?  No.  If told in advance of an allergy, I will make sure to have at least one entree, a dessert and several sides without the allergen.  2.  It depends.  If a guest hates bread, he/she would know enough to avoid the bread baskets.  If a vegetarian visits, I would serve whatever I planned and if necessary an alternative entree, sides and dessert for him/her.  3.  If I knew a friend/family member was an alcoholic, I'd tell him in advance.  4.  I anticipate my friends and family will help with clean up.  I have some of our best "all-girl" conversations at clean up.  Funny how the men tend to disappear.  5. I never heard of tree nuts, so this is enlightening.

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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 9:47am

jamblessedthree wrote:
I wouldn't be a tree nut, I'd be the giving tree with apples. :-)

Why?

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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 9:49am

<<5. I never heard of tree nuts, so this is enlightening.>>

You have never heard of pecans, walnuts, almonds....etc, nuts that come from trees?

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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 10:09am

thardy2001 wrote:
5. I never heard of tree nuts, so this is enlightening.</p>

Did you not know that most nuts come from trees? Or did you just not realize that tree nuts can be a different allergen than peanuts?  Lord, I hope it is the latter.

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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 10:23am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div> 5. I never heard of tree nuts, so this is enlightening.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Did you not know that most nuts come from trees? Or did you just not realize that tree nuts can be a different allergen than peanuts?  Lord, I hope it is the latter.</p>

Well techanically, peanuts are not nuts at all.  Peanuts grow underground and are legumes, not nuts.

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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 11:09am

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;thardy2001&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt; 5. I never heard of tree nuts, so this is enlightening.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Did you not know that most nuts come from trees? Or did you just not realize that tree nuts can be a different allergen than peanuts?  Lord, I hope it is the latter.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Well techanically, peanuts are not nuts at all.  Peanuts grow underground and are legumes, not nuts.</p>

Yep. I used to love eating them fresh out of the ground on my grandpa's farm.

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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 11:11am

chestnuthooligan wrote:
<p>1. While hosting a dinner, would you knowingly serve a dish that could kill one of your guests?</p><p>2. While hosting a dinner, would you knowingly serve an entree that one of your guest hates?</p><p>3. While hosting an event, would you serve alcohol at a event that includes a number of known alcoholics?</p><p>4. While hosting an event, would you expect guests to help with the clean up? </p><p>5. If you were a tree nut, which one would you be?</p>

1. No.

2. No.

3. Depends on the size of the event, who the alcoholics are and how steady they are in their recovery.  But my consideration on this point would begin with "no" and then work through the questions to see if alcohol would be acceptable.  It's not that big a deal if there's no alcohol.

4. If it's family or a close group of friends, I would, but in general, no.  And I tend to prefer to clean up myself, just because I'm stupidly picky about how to stack the dishwasher or put things away. :D

5. I'd be a coconut, because sometimes I feel like a nut and sometimes I don't ;)  (Reference: is a coconut a nut or a fruit?)

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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 11:37am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div> 5. I never heard of tree nuts, so this is enlightening.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Did you not know that most nuts come from trees? Or did you just not realize that tree nuts can be a different allergen than peanuts?  Lord, I hope it is the latter.</p>

A peanut is not a tree nut.