Is this a good idea?

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Is this a good idea?
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Sun, 05-18-2008 - 9:00am

I watched at episode of "Birthdays" the other day, and a family was bringing home their second child. The first child was only like 2 or something, and the mom was going to be home for awhile, (it didnt mention if she worked or not) but they decided that for the first few weeks or month or whatever they were going to put their oldest daughter into full time daycare so that they would have all day to bond with the new baby without having to deal with the toddler. I can understand what they wanted, but I think that would really hurt the toddler. A new baby comes into the house and suddenly they don't want her anymore? she gets shipped off for the day so that mommy can play with a new baby? I just don't agree, I think that when a new baby comes into the home everyone should be there to bond with him/her, not just mom and dad. My DD would have been crushed if we didn't want her here with the baby, she would have felt terribly left out and replaced.


What does everyone think? Is it

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Sun, 05-18-2008 - 10:18am

It would depend on what the situation was before the new child was born.


If the older child was already in daycare then I see no issue.

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Sun, 05-18-2008 - 10:30am

I think it depends.

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Sun, 05-18-2008 - 1:18pm

Why do you assume the toddler

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Sun, 05-18-2008 - 2:34pm

My DD would have been crushed if we didn't want her here with the baby, she would have felt terribly left out and replaced.


I'd assume the parents have a heart, and would not send the toddler to daycare if it would crush the child and make her feel terrible and replaced.

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Sun, 05-18-2008 - 4:42pm

I think it's best to keep whatever arrangements you already have so that everything will be as normal as possible for a while. Bringing home a new baby is stressful enough without adding other changes on top of that, so if the child is already in d/c, great, keep sending her. But if she isn't, it's best to keep her home so that the only change is that little brother or sister.


This is true for any life change, good or bad. When one stressful event happens, it's best to keep the rest of your life as normal as possible.

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 5:14am

Kinda depends on the toddler, doesn't it? Some would thrive, some would do equally well either place and some would be bewildered.

I don't think there's a One Size Fits All answer here.

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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 11:59am
I agree with texigan.
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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 11:26pm

I don't think there's a One Size Fits All answer here.


Are you referring to this thread, this board, iVillage or life in general?

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Fri, 05-23-2008 - 2:25am

Well, that sentence was modified by the sentence before it, but if you want it generalized, then yes.

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