Most of you know I'm a family child care provider. Well, I had an incident yesterday. A single mom called to say her grandparents would pick up her 7mo ds because she had to stay at work, her mom was out of the area, and her SO was attending a seminar. Okay ... she said the greatgrandparents would be arriving around 4pm. Well, they arrived just 30 minutes later at 1:30pm. Two infants were sleeping in packnplays set up in my parlor, 2yo and 4yo sisters asleep on their sleeping bags in the playroom, and the 5yo awake doing quiet stuff. This couple must have come immediately after their granddaughter called them ... to "save the baby from the nasty child care provider(Mom has explained her grandparents are dead set against daycare)." I saw them before they saw me ... I couldn't believe that they were looking in my windows ... and my dog was going nuts. They said they were looking for a doorbell. Oh really? I invited them in, explained it was quiet time and the children were all resting ... that went right over their heads, they kept on talking loudly and asking me all kinds of questions. Both babies were now awake, one beginning to cry because he usually sleeps for an hour and a half, but he's slept only 1/2 hour. Their greatgrandson is clinging to me and hiding his head in my shoulder. And then while I was changing hid diaper, I hear the woman tell the 5yo she saw a show the night before that said children in daycare never want to go home with their parents and asked the boy if he would rather stay with me than go home with his mom. OMG ... I told her politely that he loved his mommy and that yes he enjoyed playing here with his friends, but he wants to go home at the end of the day, and focused on getting the baby into his car seat to leave. They left. Zoom to 5pm ... 5yo's mom comes in and he hides under the prek table and tells her he's staying with me.
My question ... Do you know your grandparents/parent's views on child care and if so what are they? Views on woh/sah? My late maternal grandmother always worked, be it midwifery/child care/housekeeping. My late paternal grandmother did not work, and did share her opinion quite often about mothers who did woh/wah ... she thought it terrible for their children that their fathers couldn't fully support them and mom had to work. My paternal grandfather, her dh, was a city bus driver, he could barely support three children, and their youngest was Down Syndrome. My grandparents gave their Down Syndrome dd, when she was 3yo, to my grandfather's two sisters to raise because one sister worked as an executive secretary while the other was home, and the little girl, my aunt, could be nurtured appropriately and taken care of financially. My father grew up "visiting" his sister. My mil and mom both did some child care as sah moms with young children of their own before going to woh as their children got older. Mil and my mom have supported my decision to work.