the grass is always greener?
Hope you all don't mind a mostly lurker starting a new discussion! I was just curious about those of you who have done both SAH and WOH (but of course anyone else feel free to jump in). Did you ever have the feeling of "the grass is always greener"? I really enjoyed the years (about 2-2.5 years for each child) that I SAH, but I remember really longing to go back to work after they were about a year or 1.5 years old. Now that I am WOH more or less full-time (officially 80% but it still adds up to about 35-37 hours a week), I really enjoy it but sometimes think longingly of the time I was SAH. Just can't win :-). On the whole, I enjoy the work well enough that I know I wouldn't quit even if we had tons of money. But sometimes, like when the kids get really sick and dh and I have to juggle schedules for two weeks to cover them (because they never can get sick simultaneously, sigh!), I miss the flexibility I had with the kids when I was SAH. On the other hand, when I was SAH I really missed the intellectual and social interactions I get from working with a great group of people.
I think the kids gained a lot from me being SAH for the first couple of years, but now I also see them benefitting enormously from their school and daycare experiences. So does anyone else have kind of mixed feelings, no matter what they are doing?? And hopefully this all makes sense! I don't think very well after 10pm...