Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:43am
Because society expects women to feel guilty for not remaining attached at the cord to their kids until the day they turn 18. I love my kids, I love spending time with my kids, but I'm just not the type to sah. My girls may grow up and feel differently about their own lives and more power to them. I would not make anyone happy by sah. Except maybe society and the media.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:55am

I hate the mommy guilt crap. Unless you're making bad decisions and not being a good parent, you shouldn't feel guilty. And WOH has nothign to do with making bad decisions and not being a good parent.

I liked this quote from the article -- "Am I doing something good for me, good for our family and ultimately good for our child even if it means I'm not there at this particular moment?"

And why is it termed "mommy guilt" and not "parent guilt?" Fathers aren't doing anything different than mothers, but only mothers feel this guilt?

I feel guilty on occasion ... but never for choosing to WOH. When I've felt guilt, it's because I've done something to feel guilty about (made a bad decision, expressed myself poorly, etc).

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:58am
ITA with you. Society makes it worse for the guilt women have. I know my children are well taken care of at dc and school and I have NEVER felt like I missed anything in their lives. I really feel I pick up at the end of the day what we started at the beginning and nothing was missed (except for the kids fighting-lol!).
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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 11:21am

Because it sells ad space. As for mommy guilt itself, I blame the 50's and the forced exodus of women from the workforce at the end of WWII. With all of the time-saving inventions to make the housewife's job easier at home, there was no corresponding move to fill up the time that those devices freed up. So mothers turned to their children to fill up that time. Now, that focus has generated the mommy wars and mommy guilt in the media.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 11:27am
Because guilt, like sex, sells.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 11:39am
I didnt take that story as working mothers always feeling guilt. I think as parents we all feel guilty about something a lot. It can be that we feel guilty that we cant work the extra hours here or there to complete a project, or that we cant get to a school function, or that we miss a family event due to having to be at work. That is a given. I am going back to work in 2 weeks and I know that all of the above is going to be true. Doesnt make it a bad thing, just part of the package.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 11:40am
Then please do tell us why you always say that you wish you could be a SAHM?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 11:44am
So because I would like to stay home with my children and can not financially afford it means I should feel guilty?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 11:56am

Because it sells, it doesn't matter if it is true or not.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Tue, 07-31-2007 - 12:16pm
because women are more susceptible to guilt than men. take that poll,that investigation to men and there would be nothing to report.....men,in general,don't feel guilty leaving their family for the office.

 

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