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| Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am |
Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?
http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html
| Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am |
Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?
http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html
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Yes. We. Did.
I agree that the person who has the highest standards for cleanliness is usually the one setting the bar for how clean the house should be. IME, that is usually the woman. My standards are much higher than dh, but that doesn't mean that he just throws his hands up and says, "You want it clean, clean it yourself." We divide the work by who has the most time to do it, and he tries to do it to my standards, lol.
Robin
I know it gets busier with older kids but it is a different kind of busier. You are not physically doing things for them like small children and their needs are different.
My dh helps me out, he will get the laundry in and out, will clean up the dinner if he is not doing something else that needs to be done, he does the outside mowing and such. Do I have to nag sometimes, yes, but he is getting better and I keep telling him that I am more relaxed when he helps me because I am not always thinking of the next thing that has to be done.
I think I told you that for mother's day every year Kelly cleans my house. Well ...I don't own a mop. I have one of thos swiffer thigns that I use occassionally..the first time Kelly came to clean I walked in the door at the end of the day to be greeted with..."YOU DON'T EVEN OWN A MOP?????"
heee.. I love it when she goes all felix unger on me.
Yes. We. Did.
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That's only part of it. She/we are also not as tired because we 1) let some things go 2) don't helicopter over our kids (even when they were younger) 3) expect them to be more independent ...
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Of course you shouldn't be ashamed to say so. But you do need to realize that there are things you can do to make yourself less tired and your life less chaotic. You don't appear to be interested in making any changes to do that.
I call this the messy desk syndrome. I had a co worker who always said "LOOK how busy I am -- look how COVERED my desk is" and I used to say 'that just means your desk is messy, not that you're busy..."
man she hated that.
Yes. We. Did.
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