Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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Avatar for mkatherine
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 4:03pm
clean in between? HAHHHHHHHHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA I had a cleaning lady every two weeks for years when i was married and um..nope not so much about the cleaning in between. That was when liza was a baby/toddler too.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 4:05pm
Sorry, can't go back, not a member.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 4:06pm

No, no, I've got you going down the wrong path. Just by observing the general cleanliness behavior of the people who live there while you're visiting is usually enough to tell you if they are messy or neat.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 4:06pm
sure, there are some things my 4 year old can not do for himself, but not enough that it would keep me running around all day. what heavy things could a 3-4 year old need to be lifting? my son is not allowed to even touch the dvd player, he can certainly pick out his own dvd and i will put it on for him but that takes about 30 seconds. and my kids dont watch that much tv anyway. fickle, that word wouldnt work in my house. he picks a movie that is what he watches, there is no changing your mind 5 minutes into it that you want to watch something else, and a fit would result in the one he did watch being turned off until the next day. i do still cut up some of my sons food but that is a pretty quick and easy thing to do. as to getting dressed, he picks out his own clothes for the day, most days, brings them downstairs and we put them on, voila, he is dressed for the day. if your son goes to preschool or daycare do you really think they jump everytime he wants something - i would bet he is alot more self-sufficient there than at home. it is perfectly fine if someone wants to do everything for their kids, but then dont complain that you are run ragged by chasing after them all the time - when you set something up a certain way you are probably going to get the result you set in motion..
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Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 4:07pm
My service comes every two weeks. We don't "clean" in between really .. we straighten, pick-up, etc. But we don't clean.
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Registered: 08-02-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 4:07pm
I really can't go through all that again...if you didn't understand the first time...and it was clear....I was saying...I really CAN'T understand...(I do know) but hypothetically speaking)...why is it when who ever decides to start a Family and they are financially well off or they have enough to live reasonably ok,or they have a phD...but they decide to go back to work...then they have to have someone or somewhere to place their child/children...even partime...children grow up so which...and there are those who have waited long enough to start a family...they then decide to be away from them.As for what I will think will happen to them...I didn't say "Specifically"...something would happen to he/she or them God for bid!!...but you never know...I treasured every waking hour with mine....BUT that doesn't mean others do-not love their kids any less...I can imagine everyones child/children are the light of their parents eyes!..........and to treasure every minute...So that's it ladies...I think you know where I was coming from...but at the end of the day...we are all Mothers....but it still goes to show how women in the end find out what this job really entails...and it's hard for us all...but very precious too. Thankyou for your input...I am signing out.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 4:08pm
Uh yeah ... you can go back. You just can't search. But you can read any post in any order.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 4:08pm
I'm saying I can take care of my relationships and things, not that things and human beings are equally important.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 4:08pm
He never goes kayaking anymore. Hasnt more than once or twice since the twins were born. Same on flying. He tries to go to hockey two nights a week. And Saturday mornings. On those nights we are on our own. He's also a total night owl (drives me CRAZY). So even on those nights he does some investment work generally after hours. We have totally different body clocks but that's another story:)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 4:11pm
You don't wipe down kitchen counters or scrub the toilets or sinks for 2 weeks?

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