Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 5:03pm
Really? well good for you! We do. I am constantly wiping down counters, doing dishes (do you do them once every 2 weeks too?), picking up and putting away dishes, picking up clothes, toys, books, art supplies. I use the swifter thingie once a day for dust balls on the floor. Our hard woods show every spot of light dust.
Your sinks don't get spots? Your stainless doesnt show any little handprints? Nothing?
Your beds make themselves? Laundry does itself? Wow. Amazing.
If you don't clean between -- that's great. Must make life easier. But messier than I could stand.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 5:08pm

What part of "straighten, pick-up, etc" did you not read?

The dishes are done every night after dinner, and the counters wiped down. Breakfast dishes are either put in the dishwasher or stacked beside the sink, depending upon time constraints. The table is wiped down after meals.

The house is generally picked up on an on-going basis.

The sinks are rinsed out rgularly (I said this in another post).

Any spills are either mopped, swept or wiped up when they're made.

None of that is "cleaning". It's just straightening, picking up, etc. And making beds and doing laundry isn't cleaning either.

But we don't do the same type of cleaning the service does. If we did, then why would we hire the service? The point of the service is so we don't have to scrub toilets, vacuum floors, mop floors, wash windows and baseboards, scrub tubs and showers ...

I don't have stainless anything btw.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 5:10pm
absolutely. certainly not from a gallon milk container, but the way i do it is i put the boxes of cereal on the table, the pitcher of milk, they get themselves a bowl and a spoon and fix their breakfast. my kids dont need permission to go into the fridge or cabinet to get themselves something to eat or drink.
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Registered: 08-02-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 5:10pm
You say your children are not cared for all of the time...I'd say 8 hours per day was more than enough don't you?....and before they were to start Fulltime school that's for sure..5 weeks Vacation...Wow many of us stay at home moms...wouldn't be able to have 5 weeks vacation...I don't think we would really want it actually...catch up time with the kids....nah...I really enjoyed being with and having my my children around me...well until they started school...but I was home waiting for there return!...you know after a VERY busy day doing what those would say are the mundane jobs...but hey someone had to do it!!.As for watching other peoples kids....excuse me...I was and still would be far too busy looking and taking care of my OWN kids!! I mean SOMEONE has to do it...and who better than I...their Mother!.247...money isn't an hasn't been everything to us!..
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Registered: 09-04-1997
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 5:11pm

Well, real change sometimes takes awhile. But when the change has occurred, it's occurred. Do your kids always get everything right the first time?

There's nothing "passive aggressive" whatsoever about our house rules. Passive aggressive would be throwing the stuff out without telling them. The kids know exactly what will happen if they don't care enough to take care of their stuff.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 5:11pm
It's a British-ism.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 5:12pm
My rule of thumb is if I find myself saying the same thing twice and still don't get through, I stop before the third time. Otherwise, it gets too frustrating. :)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 5:12pm

What part of "straighten, pick-up, etc" did you not read?"

Wow that was pleasant. Nice.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 5:12pm
I have no idea what you are talking about, really. I don't know how one would get "connected" to the idea that other people's messes are their responsibility in the first place.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 5:14pm

Well, it certainly appeared you didn't read it, since I clearly said we straigten and pick up ... and then you proceeded to ask me if we ever picked things up.

And like your implication that we're total slobs and leave dishes for two weeks and live in a way that would gross you out was OH SO NICE!

give me a freakin' break.

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