Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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Registered: 08-02-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 6:12pm
Yes,Everything you have said..is perfectly exceptable...this is normal...but it seems a few of you are going off that tracks...and are taking things way too literaly.. I do-not think it's fair for relatives be that Grandparents and so on... to have the responsibility of looking after a child?children all of the time the parent/s are at work...but allowing relatives to have the child/children for the holidays..or a few hours.. as in visiting..this is different.
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Registered: 08-02-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 6:23pm
Not what I am talking about...but are you trying to say...that the reason many women go out work, is so that their child/children can be taught to read and write much better else where?...moms and dads are the starting point...and of course you know the other places don't you?..but sorry this is NOT always the reason women go to work or back to work..the reason being....wait for it....they get bored in doors.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 6:38pm
I chose to go back to work when my older son was eight months old -- for a lot of reasons. I really love what I do, and I found someone to watch him who was very good with him. I thought he might not "take" to being away three days a week, because up until then we had rarely left him, even for an hour, but it turns out he really liked the stimulation of being with my neighbor, who at the time had a five year old daughter whom he learned to adore. He was fine.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:23pm
Thanks!
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Registered: 05-14-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:23pm
My eyes were opened on ths subject a few years ago. I used to worry a lot about what people thought of me. One day I was thinking about it and realized that no one I knew was perfect. If I was able to accept people and not judge them for their inperfections then why didn't I assume that other people were equally able to do the same and accept me, inperfections and all, rather then assuming that they were judging me. So now I don't worry about people judging me.
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Registered: 01-12-2004
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:23pm
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Registered: 09-04-1997
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:28pm

Evidently only boys benefit. For girls, it doesn't seem to matter. It also doesn't seem to matter if the family has meals together or not, according to this study. Wierd.

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Registered: 05-14-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:29pm

I got a call from a friend last week. Her DD was having a spa party and she was calling to invite me.

I told her that I am not a girly girl and a spa party is not something that I would ever consider a fun evening so thanks for the invite but no, I would not be coming.

She told me that she knew that it was not my thing and that I probably would not come but she did not want to not invite me.

Isn't it great to have friends that accept our differences?

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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:30pm
It's really not because I have known that for awhile. My gf actually was told by her real estate agent that 90% of the houses she was selling were dirty. And....these are houses that people want to sell, not just what they live in everyday. My neighbor actually told me if I came to her open house it would be the only time I would see her house clean. I believe her because I have never seen it clean in the 9 years I have known her.
Nothing surprises me much anymore. I have had both family and friends go to buy houses so I know what is out there. Scary to me and sad to the people who really are clean and have to take so much time to clean a home just to live in it. My sister cleaned her kitchen counter 3 times and the rag was still black. How someone lives like that is beyond me.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:35pm
It's so hot here that most of the day they are only allowed to drink water. They get milk with meals. (Juice is evil, and I have the dentist bills to prove it!) Milk, I pour for them, although my 7 year old pours milk for my 3yo sometimes. Otherwise, they get their own water out of the sink or they open their own water bottle. I don't spend much time getting drinks. I've also instituted a food schedule, to avoid them asking for snacks all freaking day. They know they get breakfast at a certain time, snack at a certain time, and so on, and my 7yo can read a clock. They don't ask for snacks anymore either. Woohoo!

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