Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:35pm

No, I have personally seen teachers helping the kids get things. There is nothing wrong with helping a child. I would hope they would as he is in their care all day.

My son's toys (99% of them) ARE on the floor or reaching distance. It depends on the weight and size of the toy. He is not a big kid, small, 31 pound child.

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Registered: 08-09-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:35pm

Gee, you're nice. I hope that's hyperbole, because if you are calling me neglectful because I don't agree with your parenting style, then you debate way too meanly. I have a three year old and she is perfectly capable without me doing everything for her. Just because I don't jump at her beck and call doesn't mean she's not constantly supervised. I'm just not a pushover, and I expect my 3yo to learn how to do things for herself. Perhaps you treated your older daughter the same way, and that could be why a 9yo can't even take her own shower without help.

ET change a sentence because some people have never heard of figures of speech, apparently.




Edited 8/10/2007 8:17 pm ET by mrfurleyisawesome
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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:35pm
I just find it odd as you ALWAYS have the link to everything. No other reason than that.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:37pm
YES you should ignore that. What motivation does she have to put things away? Mommy always finds it for her. If she had to go to school without her homework and suffer the consequences of not putting her things away, maybe she would start.
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Registered: 05-14-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:40pm
I have always set up my house to be as kid independent as possible. When they were younger I bought milk in half gallons rather then gallons (even though it cost more) so they could pour their own milk. I kept plastic plates, cups and bowls in the lower cupboards until they were tall enough to reach the upper cupbaords.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:40pm

You have down twice that you do mop and then you don't, do you mean full jobs?.

You can leave your house not to be vaccummed for 2 weeks? Do you have any animals? Even without the dog, I need to vaccuum at least once a week.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:44pm
I think there is a difference between "messy" and unsanitary. Messy is stuff that hasn't been put back, maybe a couple days mail thrown on a counter waiting to be sorted, maybe handprints on a doorway, or a basket of unfolded laundry sitting on the couch in the den waiting for somebody to be inspired to fold it and put it away, stuff like that. But the food prep areas and the bathrooms would be clean. Otherwise you move to "unsanitary.
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Registered: 08-09-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:48pm
And if you think about it.. if he's too little to put them away, then he is too little to get them out. So how did they get out?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:48pm

What do you mean wouldn't be able to have 5 weeks of vacation? Those weeks were spent with my children. I don't understant what you are saying.

I do get my daughter from the bus many times during the year. Your busy day of doing things are also things that I do but after work and on weekends. I have to do the same things you do, but in a shorter amount of time than you have.

I have no clue what you are talking about taking care of other kids. I said you don't know what it is like for someone else to take care of YOUR kids so you can not judge me.

I am my children's mother and I and their father are raising them.

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Registered: 01-12-2004
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 7:49pm

I don't agree. I am debating the fact that the posters here who keep very clean homes are being responded to by posters who seem to be proud of their messy, dirty homes. Hazeleyes may be being debated about the lack of help she receives from her family but I never had that problem so it is not what I am debating at all. I believe that adults can focus on the people and their homes at the same time. Having a clean home doesn't mean people aren't focusing on the "important things", as some have implied.

Robin

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