Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:24pm
That still doesn't let you know how much time I am in my home.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:25pm
So you are saying you were wrong and it doesn't necessarily depend on the factors you mentioned?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:28pm

Ok, sooooooooooooooooo, I decided to research this. It did take me about an hour but that is ok, dinner done, bills paid, kids in bed, have all the time I want. This is every comment you responded back to me regarding the post regarding how YOU felt as a child with a brother with ADD/ADHD (these are 2 different things). There is not ONE post in the 15 posts you responded back to me that tells me HOW you felt with living with your brother. You said you understand but you never have explained to me what your life was like even though you insist you have. Why keep coming back at me telling me to look at the posts when you KNEW you never mentioned it once more than just saying you understand when I specifically asked you today how you felt, not what your parents went through?

My first question to you-#2430
"Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't. Have you ever dealt with a child with ADHD?"

#2447:
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Yep, my brother, lived with him for 18 years. My mother made him clean his own messes up, just as I had to do.

#2477:
Yes I do, which is why my mother was consistent and made him clean up his messes each, each time and didn't do it for him. He needed to learn to remember.

#2797:
You still didn't answer my questions and yes as I explained numerous posts ago I understand what it is like living with someone with adhd.
Whatever.

#2811:
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Again, yes. Again, my parents still made my brother responsible for his messes and I'm certain that by the age of 8 or 9 he was taking showers/baths on his own.

#2875:
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Yes, as I have stated....what three times now?

#2932
Oh please...he was diagnosed in elementary school, why on earth would we call it by a name that no longer exists and while the diagnosis is the same, only the name is different.
Yes, he was on ritalin.

#2938:-me to you:
Was he add or adhd? Didn't this affect your childhood at all?

#2957:
I have already stated the answers to these questions 4 times, if you wish to have them answered again, I suggest you re-read the thread.

#2965:-me to you
You stated HOW it affected your childhood? I must have missed that part.

#2982:
Then re-read.

#2997:
FYI, it doesn't take a member to go back.

#3005:
You have asked those same questions 5 times, I have answered them 4, the answers haven't changed.

#3022:
oh well.

#3041:
How many times do I have to say I answered these questions, posts ago to make it clear?

#3050:
Well, since I have answered that same question 4 times, why on earth do you think I should answer it another just because you can't remember the answers or don't have the time to read it again?

#3057:
I just figured that it would be remembered, since it was answered multiple times now.

#3064:
So then why is it my responsibility to answer a question for the 5th time? Wouldn't it be the person who doesn't remember and wants to know the answer, yet again, to find the answer on their own?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:28pm
That isn't what you said initially. You implied that since I don't have boys, I don't understand active kids.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:31pm
I told my gf that I should go with her because I can't believe how many people are dirty in this world. EVERY person who I have spoken to that has looked at houses recently and in the past told me the same thing that houses are disgusting. It costs the new buyers so much money to clean and update these homes as the previous buyers do nothing.
I know that spending time should be the #1 priority in your life because life is short but why can't you take a couple of minutes (not you!) and just clean each day. I feel so much better when my house is clean and I am not overwhelmed with how much I have to do.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:35pm
I am saying I was not pointing the finger at you and making you an example. I don't know you personally but I do know there are many lax mothers out there in the world. For example, I was in a kids store tonight looking around. There was a husband and wife, she clearly very pregnant and her 2 or 3, not sure how many she actually had as there were other families there too but they looked just like her dh and they were all over the place, kids were just roaming around without them even paying attention to them (they were young 3,4, maybe 5). They were no where near them, closer to the front of the store while they were in the back.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:35pm

Don't you mean down? :)

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-12-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:36pm
Once again, other people could possibly have other circumstances.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:36pm
Sorry, I guess I was going on a tangent about boys because I know how different they are from girls. My son is more active in the sense of climbing things, breaking things than my daughter. It is a different active and if I didn't have a boy, I would never understand it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:37pm
Yes, I understand that but I just can't see, unless you have tons of bathrooms (she did tell me she had 3) how they can stay clean for 2 weeks with many people using them everyday.

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