Guilt

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Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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Registered: 11-22-2000
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 11:54pm
If I got bored indoors, how would going to work help? My office is indoors, too.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 11:55pm

Just keep telling yourself that it only lasts for 7 years. Even if it doesn't.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-10-2007 - 11:58pm

Yup. I also knew how to teach them to find the basics. Water? Dixie cups in the bathroom, water in the tap. His toys? His responsibility. I'd help him by intructing his clean up in a broken down fashion. Instead of "go clean your room" it would be, "okay, pick up all the blocks. Where do you want the blocks? Put them there. Now pick up your books. Where do you want your books. Put them there. Now, your dirty clothes? Where do they go?" and so on. Breaking it down into simply, specific tasks helps focus little ones, and since it was his room, I gave him a good deal of autonomy as to how he wanted to store his toys. I didn't care WHERE stuff went as long as it wasn't on the bed or the floor.

it takes a good deal longer that way, but I prefer to look at the long-term, which is really the best way to raise kids. Since the POINT of having kids is to teach them the skills they need to be adults.

As you've adequately demonstrated, the failure to start them young ends up with YOU carrying the load for 3 or more people who are prefectly able to carry their own load. I'm not about martyrdom.

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:14am

Our 3 girls are all totally different from each other. And Dylan is a conglomerate of all three.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:37am

If backpack and shoes are important enough for you to step in, then they're important enough for you to take charge of them right from the moment they enter the house.

If you're not going to bother with that, then you have to make her responsible for them. The point being SOMEONE needs to take responsibility. Either you or her. But if you're letting her do whatever with them and then taking responsibility only when you're running late, it's bad management.

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:39am
I never had juice as a regular thing for my kid, and milk only at meals. There's no reason he needed anything but water between times.

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:41am
Amen and Amen.

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:42am
You don't either. You WOH all day. Or is the story NOW that the 3 year old is with you all day.

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:46am
That's pretty much the standing rule at our home. If something is messy enough to comment on, it's messy enough for the commenter to step up and fix it. And there's no chore in the house so special that only one person can do it while everyone else stands around and clucks over how remiss that person is for failing to meet someone else's standards.

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:47am
What? they didn't burst forth fully grown from your head???? ;)

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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