Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 10:40am

I just don't see the point of making a bed everyday. We sleep with individual comforters with divet covers that act as sheets. As long as they are on the bed, everything is hunky dory.

Sort of like, I don't see the point of make up. I don't use it, other people do- it is no skin off my back. Different personalities and different choices.

Nothing that could constitute neglect.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 10:41am
I consider that a "touch up" not a deep cleaning - and the boys do it themselves now. Our bathrooms get "deep cleaned" every other week by our cleaning lady.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 10:42am

I used to wear makeup every day and when I met Kelly she said "your eyes are so big and pretty why are you putting all that stuff on them"

I love her. and have saved alot of money I used to squander at the clinique counter since then! LOL

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 10:42am
Nah. I don't think it's my job to pick up after my dh and kids. They can pick up after themselves.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 10:43am
I never said I would not be your friend. I have dust too like everyone and can NOT keep up with it in the winter. Do I think you (not YOU in particular) should neglect your children to clean? Absolutely not. I do think you should teach your children that cleaning is important and something that they will always have to do. If that means taking an hour out of the day to not play with them or have them help as they get older (just had the kids help put away dvds and they loved it) then that is what it takes. I really never saw my mother clean because she did it when we were at school. Before that, we were never neglected by her cleaning when we were home. She played games with us, taught us how to sew, had snacks ready after school, etc. She also had a clean, neat home for us. Maybe a super clean home was a priority for her (as it is not for others) but I never felt like she was just cleaning all the time. Was my mom tired, yeah. She was the 70's mom who waited hand and foot on everyone, getting up in the wee hours of the morning with my dad, going to bed at 9pm. I did NOT want to do that but as I get older I appreciate what she did for all of us as she taught me many things to be able to take care of my family and I try and keep my home the same way she did (NEVER will accomplish that and I don't try-lol!).
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Registered: 03-12-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 10:45am
Maybe she doesn't see it as important?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 10:46am

My home is small, 1,100 (not sure if that includes the full basement) square feet. I am able to maintain it (except in the winter as I can NOT keep up with the dust!).

I am only on the computer now because my clothes are drying in the dryer. Inbetween I have done many things already this morning.
I will go on sometimes to check e-mails before work after everyone is done dressing but I haven't been able to do that this week. I go on at lunch when I am home alone. I will go on after dinner, inbetween taking care of everyone and then when the kids go to bed (if you see me on at all different times!). My rule, which I am trying to teach my kids is that you get all your priorities done first THEN you sit down. That way, your cleaning, laundry, bills, etc. are done and then you don't have to worry about them.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 10:47am
we cleaned when we had to growing up and we all had chores from a young age -- as does Liza -- I had to put out the milk bottles for the milkman withour order (dating myself!) when I was 4-5 then I graduated to clearing th etable with my brother, then dusting on cleaning day -- but cleaning day was a big twice a year thing -- not an ongoing thing and it NEVER took precedence over family time. Like I said, my family didn't place a big value on things or trappings nor do I. I'd rather ignore the dust and take Liza for a swim.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 10:50am
Not when you do a little each day. When I say "cleaning" I am not talking about heavy cleaning. I have a small 3 bedroom, 1 bath ranch. I wipe down the counters and toilet every day or every other with a chlorox wipe inbetween my makeup and hair drying. I will dust only when it gets bad (I am bad at this-lol!) and my dd LOVES to dust and mop her room. I will clean windows and mirrors when they need it. I will vacuum usually about once a week and same with mopping. Wiping down the kitchen counters is an easy thing done while I am in the kitchen doing something else.Laundry is put in and taken out usually by my dh and then I fold and put away inbetween other things and my dd puts hers away.
What else is there that would take time away from my kids?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 10:51am
I agree and not all of my friends are the same but the very good ones are similiar in morals and beliefs and that is why they are good friends because we get along so well.

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