Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 11:47am
I could find five minutes to do it. But I don't want to. I see no benefit in doing so. I really don't like to spend my time, even 5 minutes, doing somthing that provides no benefit to me or my family.
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Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 11:49am

Thank you!

I "maintain" my house. I "keep up". I straighten, wipe things down. I don't "CLEAN" very often, if at all, since I have a service.

I think I'm using "clean" in a different sense than PNJ and some others ... but that's why I put it in quotes in my original post on this topic.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 11:49am

And if he wants to run the bath water himself because he's proud that he can do so? And wants privacy during his time in the bathroom? Just like everyone else in the family because he's a big boy now and not a baby. When the girls were 5, yes, I had to stay upstairs while they took a bath because the only bathroom was on the 2nd floor. When Dylan was 5, we were living in a single story house where the bathroom was around the corner from the living room. I could hear him perfectly fine without having to physically in the bathroom with him.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 11:51am

For the most part, yeah. He might not have been my greatest fan while he cleaned his stuff up and he might not have done it first time he was told all the time, but he knew full well--LONG before he started kindergarten--that he was responsible for putting away the things he got out. Period.

IME there is nothing of value to be gained by parent OR child by training the child to expect Mom to cover for him when he can't be bothered to put his own things away.

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 11:52am

WEll, let's see.

I slept in (7:45). I've showered, made/eaten breakfast, gone school supply shopping, taken ds for a haircut, and started my grocery list/menu plans for the week. Oh, and I corralled the kids into the tub/shower as well.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:05pm
Of course children get hurt right in front of their parents. I was told by a neighbor (she lives right next door to them and has for 30 years) who was told from the mother's mouth. Have to tell you this is not the mother of the year though so it was not too surprising. She was brought up the same way, basically they reised themselves so its not surprising that she is raising her kids like this and her kids are raising their kids like this too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:06pm
That is not a benefit to your family? Does your family live in your home? Do you have pride in your home? Don't you want your children to learn to have pride in themselves and their home?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:09pm
Sounds like you have been very busy too!! I actually got to sit down for awhile this morning because I ran out of detergent and got backed up with my laundry and had to wait for 2 loads to dry to get dressed!!
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Registered: 01-10-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:12pm

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No. How does making my bed benefit me? How does having a made bed benefit my children? Can you show me a benefit?

Dh makes our bed. He likes the way it looks. It gives him pleasure. He gets a benefit out of it, so he does it. I don't, so I don't.

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Ummm yeah. But that has nothign to do with what I said.

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Yes. But unmade beds doesn't remove that pride. I don't have pride in made beds.

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Yes, but I fail to see what making their beds has to do with it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Sat, 08-11-2007 - 12:12pm
You THINK he does-lol!!

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