Guilt

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Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 12:42pm

I had lunch with four girlfriends on Wed. We decided if we could just combine the best traits of our husbands we'd have *the* perfect man.
Combination of cooking (my friends DH is a chef!!!), great with the kids (my DH who loves to play with them, read to them, etc. etc.), great handiman (other friends husband runs a contracting firm) and total romantic (we hate her...;) her husband brings her flowers constantly -- suprises her with romantic dinners and trips, etc). Pretty funny. I would love to hear what they'd say about us:)

MM

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Registered: 07-18-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 12:42pm

"I wonder what time zone she is in."


I think we're all wondering that, Chris.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 10-17-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 12:49pm

I can't recall exactly what I typed in my first post, lol. There are so many posts that have been typed since. I THINK I understand what you're saying though. My mother and both grandmother's worked so therefore it was a natural choice for me. Sah only briefly entered my thoughts and once I tried it I didn't care for it. As far as my girls go, they can work or not. I'm guessing they will because they tend to be very independant and fond of money ;). They see me working and when they visit my office they see plenty of women in higher level jobs/careers. Women not being encouraged or allowed to work will be an antiquated idea that may fascinate them at the same time it pleases them that it is indeed out-of-date. They also tend to see boys as their equal from the get-go (no coaxing from me) and will often play with them over the girls (I'm fine with this because I don't have to hear "so-and-so said if I don't do _____ she won't be my friend anymore.")

I think it is great that society accepts working mothers and women in general. I like that child-free-by-choice women are more accepted and that dads are becoming more likely to either sah or become more involved. I like having choices for my girls and their future spouses. I would like to see sah/woh/wah not degraded as much and I would like to see more women supporting each other even if they don't care for one choice or the other.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 12:54pm

Thank you....and I am sure that you are correct.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-17-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 12:55pm
What if both parents are able to work and still have one parent home with the kids? Some parents work from home and dh and I have split shifts for most of our parenting lives. We've always been home for the kids. However, I don't think it is a bad thing for children to leave the home, even young kids, and learn to be with other trusted adults. I have a friend who sends her kids to grandma's and they are forging a very strong bond. I know another who sends her kids to a DC in a home run by a very loving woman. "Others" watching children does not equal unattentive parents anymore than work status.
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Registered: 08-27-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 12:57pm
Definitely!
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Registered: 10-17-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 12:57pm
My house is never empty, even when humans are not present. I have 3 cats, 1 dog, and 2 guinea pigs living there, as well as whatever creature it is that keeps stealing my dds' socks ;).
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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:00pm

In that case, his children are probably a lot younger than the ages he has posted.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 10-17-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:01pm
Why does it matter who watches the children if they are completely unaware of it anyway? My dds were always quite aware of who was watching them and where they were at the time.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:06pm
those lines here are limited to patrons with 15 items or less please,too. a pet peeve of mine is when i'm in that line to just purchase a last minute staple like hamburger buns and i'm waiting behind a woman whose still plowing through her 20 or 30 grocery items. argg.........my regular once a week grocery run costs me at least an hour of my time and an overflowing cart of groceries. i wait in the full service line.

 

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