Guilt

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Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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Registered: 08-29-2002
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:12pm
Perfect! Did I mention that dh also does major renovations (and is a perfectionist about it)?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:42pm
I absolutely agree. I interview top male executives regularly who tell me they chose another career path due to time with family and other family reasons. Generally turning down international assignments, or moving into a less field oriented leadership role, or whatever. While I definetly know more mom's who feel the whole "mommy guilt" thing than I do dads -- men arent immune from it.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 1:56pm
Sounds like it! I think mine is probably at a different level from dh's too, but we both feel it. The little everyday things are just a bigger deal to me than they are to him and always will be.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 2:01pm
But the same thing happens online. The specials are put front and center on the home page. Each category of food brings up thumbnails to scroll down and subcategories. Serendipity is pretty easy. You see pictures of the food rather than the actual food, but I've yet to be hosed on quality even though they could theoretically do it if they wanted to.
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Registered: 01-12-2004
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 2:26pm

I find that to be true of my dh also. My dh tends to have a "big picture" few of things where as I tend to notice the little things. I do know that my dh would never stay in a job that required him to be away from home 80 hours a week. Call it parental guilt or whatever, he would not feel like he could be the parent he wants to be and be away from home that much.

Robin

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Registered: 09-07-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 3:26pm
They know that for three of their children their decisions worked out fine and so far things are working out fine for the fourth.

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Registered: 09-07-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 3:32pm

What authority said its not okay to send kids off to daycare? You? What do you expect to happen to the poor children in daycare?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 4:00pm

<<those lines here are limited to patrons with 15 items or less please,too.>>


Not at the grocery store I use....they have two groups of the self-checkout lines.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 4:26pm
It's good we all have different perspectives. I never regarded my salary as "extra" income, but as part and parcel of the family finances. And I'm not a night person, and enjoy time with the whole family and with DH after the kids are in bed, so I would have SAH instead of WOH FT or PT at night.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 4:28pm
Doesn't a tiny part of you wish you'd WOH FT while your kids were little, from your perspective now? You'd have a lot more put away for retirement, I bet.

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