Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 5:45pm
as long as you know your child is safe and happy why would anyone need to feel guilty. do you feel guilty about sending your kids to school.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 6:10pm
What are you going to do when you have an empty nest? Which must be soon if you've been doing this for 25 years?
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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 6:49pm
just like an alert to show coupons to the attendant when you want to use a coupon,too...those quick check out lines are really a convenience for ppl who aren't at the store to buy much ime....and are you honestly saying that you check out a full grocery cart that way? i can't imagine many chains allowing that for precautionary/safety reasons more than anything else. it's much safer to limit a line like that to 15 items or so than allow full grocery runs that way - that way the attendant can keep an eye on what is being purchased without any funny business. not saying you're guilty of that but it's tougher to keep track of hundreds of items purchased through self check out than minimal purchases.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 7:01pm

That's fair...at least your children had their dad to take care of them...I agree with that!..."

Oh well thank GOD. I'm so relived. "At least" for the dad? Do you think dad's are second class citizens to moms when it comes to spending time with children?

"if it came down to it in this day and age,having a childs parent is better then having family or strangers taking care of him,her or them."

Oh please. My children love spending time with my mother. She's family. I havent left them with any other family members, nor would I. But that's just *our* family. If my other siter and brothers in law lived in the same continent I would. they are wonderful parents and my kids would have a ball.

And who leaves their children with strangers?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 7:09pm
There is definetly a difference in obligations / time between *most* SAHP's and most WOHP's. Its really not that hard to understand why:)
Many of my friends are SAHM's and my husband is a SAHD.
They have to get the kids to school at a certain time, and pick them up. They take the kids to their various activities during the week, and Drs appts. They do grocery shopping.
But people who work have to do some or all of these things (usually -- at least I do, and everyone I know who works does) and stil has work obligations.
One of the top reasons most SAHP's give for staying at home is more flexibilty to spend time with the kids. Ya lose alott of that when you work. The flexibility that is.
My typical work day involves getting the kids breakfast then getting out the door and on con calls by 8 a.m. I'm then often scheduled so tightly I find it hard to find time to go to the ladies room let alone anything else. I'm pregnant now and cutting back on some of the more grueling days. But pre pregnancy I'd often be booked *solid* from 8-8 p.m. or at least 8 to 6.30 p.m. (hence the reason I almost never posted during the week day up till a month or so ago....now that I'm cutting back a bit).
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 8:43pm
Where I shop, one attendant is constantly milling around amongst the self-checkout lanes to help with little things like that. On the one hand, the store has to pay an employee to hover in that area without ringing anybody up. But on the other hand, there's always some little issue that comes up and it takes less time than having somebody called away from elsewhere in the store every 10 minutes.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 8:47pm
There's a whole lot of space between 15 items or less and hundreds of items (how many people really purchase hindreds of items in one trip?). My store is set up the same way. Half of the self-checkout are for 15 or less, half for whatever amount you happen to have. And I've yet to see anyone attempt to ring up more than one cartful because it's just too unwieldy when by yourself. I've rung up one cartful many times and while it's more than 15, I can assure you that it is well under a hundred items (probably 30-40 at most) and the risk of funny business is no more or less than the risk for 15 items.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 8:57pm
Is "twilight" a time zone?

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Registered: 11-22-2000
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 9:06pm
They do that here, too. I once got a big kick out of it because when I got my receipt, I saw that the attendent had typed in my birth year as 1981. I thought that was hysterical...considering that in 1981, I was already old enough to buy that case of Corona!LOL

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Registered: 11-22-2000
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 9:08pm
If PKA's experience is like mine, she didn't really have to flash it. They just take a look and go, oh yeah...she's old enough...and then punch in whatever date comes to mind. As I said before, sometimes they make me younger just to mess with my head. ;-)

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