Guilt

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Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 10:55pm

I've interviewed at least 2 dozen men in the past two years who felt guilty enough about their extreme hours to make different choices in their careers to rectify the situations.

And I buy *very* expensive shoes, clothes, and work extreme hours. I feel guilt about the *hours* but never the shoes or clothes. Why should I? And if you look at who consumes the most high fashion its women by FARRRRRR. So I don't think that does anything for your case that guilt is a female, vs. male thing in this regard.

I think men feel just as guilty as women on general. Just about different things.

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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:06pm

So your saying, the media are making stories up?...."

Oh gasp never. The media never exagerate or make anything up. LOL.

"and why should any mother feel GUILTY if they feel they are doing the right thing....Surely there are big enough women out there to know if you feel guilty, there must be a reason for it!"

I know I feel guilty for things that I shouldnt feel guilty for. Like putting my son on a time out when he hits my daughter over the head with his plastic shovel. Or putting my daughter on a time out in her room when she decides to retailiate 20 minutes later by pouring a glass of water over his head. I'm a "big enough woman" to admit I feel guilt for WOH sometimes too -- though not so much anymore. And so do *many* men -- but then I also know its the best thing for my family, for me, and for our unique situation.
I'd feel guilt over things I shouldnt feel guilt over, and things I should. LIke *most* parents.

But that's not media worthy --

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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:07pm
I know I'm seeing that pattern:)
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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:25pm
Is this how he makes his living?
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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:27pm
Yes it will be a great thing if we can sell our home and make that profit. Like I said we were very lucky to get this house at the price we did. That plays a significant role in the profit. However it doesnt translate into a WAH job. I dont get paid.
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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:29pm
According to the definitions of this board it certainly does. Have you seen the corrections coming out of the woodwork when a WAHM calls herself a SAHM because she WAH but her children stay at home with her?
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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:30pm
Nope I am not in that business. The homes we have renovated have been our home that we live in.
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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:31pm
No I havent said that at all.
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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:32pm
Hey that is your choice. You eat at your desk through lunch that is YOUR choice. Doesnt mean you arent entitled to it. Not to mention we werent discussing you.
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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 11:34pm
You are coming at this from the wrong angle. I have never once said that a SAHM has less time than a WOHM. Her statement was that if she SAH she would have more do as she pleased time. I told her that isnt the case for everyone. That the last 8 years I have been at home I have had less do as I please time than when I did when I WOH. That is my personal experience.

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