Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:53am
You have a school bus, but you won't use it? Why?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:03am
Why not? At least where we lived it was mostly a matter of signing them up. You do not have to be Catholic.
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Registered: 08-29-2002
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 6:46am

"Yes I have been at work where I am very busy. However I take my lunch break early, or I leave work early."

I think what PNJ means is that sometimes it is neither possible to take a lunch break nor leave work early. There is no guarantee that one gets a free hour every day.

I've certainly been in that position any number of times. A certain amount of work had to be accomplished within one day regardless of my personal desire for a lunch break or the option of leaving early (in those cases, I often ended up skipping my lunch break and working later). Also, many people who face that kind of situation do not earn any overtime pay or other compensation. Both dh and I, for example, are not entitled to compensation of any kind for overtime work.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-29-2002
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 6:48am
Why? Is there something wrong with riding on the bus and/or being able to get to and from school independently?
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Registered: 03-12-2005
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:00am
Not mbanc, but I drive my 15 yo dd to school and pick her up daily. My reason is that she would be wasting time on the bus. If I drop her off, she sleeps later, which is better for her regarding being alert for education. I pick her up so she can arrive home an hour earlier, giving her more time to relax and do homework.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:08am
in order to qualify for bus transportation,you must live outside two miles from the school...i think there's only going to be one school where my kids techically qualify for that transportation but i doubt we'll use the arrangements. i don't think there's anything learned or gained by riding a bus nor do i think it's fair for kids to have to get on buses as early as 6:30 am just so the bus can make its entire district run when i can get her/him there myself.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-29-2002
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:10am

If there is a significant time cost to riding on the bus, I can kind of see the point. Otoh, I never found commuting via public transportation to really be a waste of time since it gave me the opportunity to just sit back and relax or catch up on fun reading. Obviously, it depends on the child to some extent.

In any case, yours is a very specific case of one child and one bus route. I don't really understand why Mbanc would categorically declare that her children will never ride the bus unless she has something fundamentally against the whole concept of bus riding for children.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:12am
when i was growing up,it was all about catholic families enrolling their catholic children there....i don't know about all other places now but here,it's all about being some right *fit* for the catholic school,passing a point system and favortism.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-29-2002
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:14am
If a child is within 2 miles of the school, surely he/she can bike or walk at some point (at least by junior high or high school)? Maybe I'm just too old, but I can't honestly remember any child of my generation being driven to or from school past about age 8 or so. Are there really no children left in the US who get themselves to and/or from school? Are kids really expecting their parents to drive them everywhere until they reach adulthood?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 7:15am
I'm not mbanc obviously but I wanted to chime in that sometimes the bus isn't the most convenient way to get the kids to school -- Liza would love to ride the bus to her school but b/c of the way the routes are set up she would be among the first pickup at (ready for this) 6:30 AM! Now I don't know about you but for me to get Liza up, fed, dressed and to school for the 7:35 am bell is all I can do i can't imagine getting her ready for 6;30 to ride the bus for an hour --especially on dark winter mornings! So for us, the bus really isn't the best option -- maybe in middle school it will work!

 

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