Guilt

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:14pm

Still not clear on what your renovation was, or how much you felt you needed to be home, or whether you were doing work that most people would employ a general contractor to do.

In any event, it seems pretty clear that if it was hard for you to supervise that much while SAH, it would be even more difficult to do it if you were WOH. So it doesn't seem accurate to say that you had less "do as you please" time as a SAHM than you would have if you had been a WOHM.

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Registered: 08-29-2002
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:15pm
But the rule about not crossing the street is for elementary school kids, right? Surely they don't ban junior high and high school kids from crossing a busy street on their own?
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Registered: 12-29-2004
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:22pm
Just spent a few days with my in-laws, and catching up at this point makes me laugh. My 86yo FIL grew up in Manhattan, and one of his favorite topics is his school days. From one borough to another, on trains, buses and subways, in all weathers, he made it to school and back with nobody worrying about him in the least, even in elementary school. Times have certainly changed.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:23pm
I thought you were talking about biking as an option to Elementary school, but unfortunately the busy streets to the HS and MS are not very good biking roads. I would be worried at high noon and they would be biking in the dark/dawn most of the school year. I wish we had incentives to put in bike paths as there is a perfect place for one for each school as well as sidewalks. It is a county that used to be relatively rural until the 1960's and infrastrucure has yet to catch up to all the building. Pehaps now that the county is now almost completely over built, we will focus our energies on that type of infrastructure.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:27pm
Just trying to get your story straight. You have a job, you're now a WOHM. Why you have a problem admitting that, or even feel like it's something that needs to be "admitted" is beyond me. As long as you have a job, the rest of the board considers you a WOHM.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:28pm
as for 3. No, not everyone, but if you buy something and through effort and value added generated by your efforts you make a profit, then you have earned the money through your work. Buying and selling houses is not the only way of doing this. If you put together any kind of deal that involves buying and selling something that generates a profit for you then most people would consider that work, although it does not generate a salary or pay check in the ordinary way. IOW, getting a regular pay check is the not the only way to earn money through work.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:30pm
Could you please elaborate on "woh standards created on boards like these" actually means? And why you think that you are somehow unique in finding work that complements and uses your skills, interests, and hobbies?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:30pm

If only we could have predicted the future, huh?

We made the same decision to sell at a loss rather than rent.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:31pm
Define "income," please!
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Registered: 07-26-2006
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:32pm

You paid closing costs on a house you sold?

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Every single thing you do to your home increases value IF you do it right. You replace flooring or put in new cabinets etc make your house more marketable, and increases value. The things we did to this home were because the home had been in foreclosure and was ugly. The things we did to this house we would have done whether it was our dream home or if we were renovating to sell. I am not just relying on the marketplace but that does play a significant role in selling a home. If your market is horrible no matter what you do to your house you will not make money or you will make very little. We bought this house well below market value because of the foreclosure and condition. So the market, renovation, and low purchase price all play a role in selling a home.

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