Guilt

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Guilt
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:20am

Why does the media portray working moms, always, as having guilt?


http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/family/07/30/hm.mommy.guilt/index.html


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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:55pm

Liza's dress code is quite strict --we order from a uniform supply company or I get her uniforms each year at the free uniform swap (which I LOVE -- bring in the outgrown ones and take new ones from older kids -- free!). they do not talk in the halls, they have a demerit system from 3rd grade on -- but the emphasis is not so much on the punitive action as it is on respecting one another and their teachers. It's a happy school -- you can see that in the faces of the kids and the teachers -- they love it there. It's aschool with alot of community spirit to it and for Liza it is definitely the best fit. My mom was a VERY old fashioned teacher (she'd fail kids for foretting a homework assignment) so i enjoy the sort of old fashioned emphasis on behavior that the school has but I also enjoy how liza has been encouraged to find her own voice and develop and nourish her own interests.

the other thing I love about the uniforms is that you can't tell who has money and who doestn' -- uniforms are the great equalizer!

 

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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:58pm

well our bus stop is for the neighborhood is several streets away down a steep hill where she'd be waitin gin the dark in the winter -- really...not what I want her doing at 6;30 on a winter morning whens he could be sleeping and having a decent breakfast.

there are much bigger issues in parenting for me to concern myself with other than whether she rides a bus or not.

like I said..meh...not that big a deal to me.

 

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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:01pm
I was never able to master that. It never felt like "me time". *For me* to feel like "me time", I need to be on my own without the responsibility of being on the job or taking care of the kids even if they are in the next room "studying". My brain does not relax. I envy(?) those that can. However, I can nearly relax on a trip alone to the grocery store. When the boys are in school, I almost relax too- not completely because I am still the responsible parent if they need to be unexpectedly picked up -which is cooincidently always the day I have my quarterly pedicure scheduled. ;)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:02pm

I'm sorry I'm being obtuse, let me be more direct.


And I did answer all of your questions.


"what does doing my current job remotely have to do with.....anything?"


If you can no longer do your current job from your DH's family farm, I was using "forced to retire" as the description for that fact. I have no idea if you'll be able to do the kind of accounting you do once you're living in a different state at your DH's family farm.


"Do you not believe that I can not continue my job and/or career in any other area than my current one?

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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:03pm
I agree, I would be happy if they brought back the crossing guard and cancelled the bus - my kids could very easily walk to school "alone".
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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:05pm

I don't consider it hysterical at all. I consider it an accident waiting to happen, and when DS's friends show up at the house, or I see them riding around the neighborhood with no helmets, I am not above approaching the kid and asking where the helmet is. And the other parents in my neighborhood would do the same with my kid.

Call me crazy, but I like the idea of fewer rather than more kids over the last couple of generations being poisoned because of child-safety locks and medicine bottles, being killed in car crashes because of restraint laws, or being killed or injured because of protective sports gear.

That said, my older kid rides his bikes all over town. Even in traffic. Even at night.

The eleven year old has a few more restrictions, but he is allowed to cross busy streets and deliver his paper route all by himself.

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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:06pm

If someone spends their day researching, reviewing and supervising something...such as their investments on a daily basis and doesn't receive a paycheck from anyone, yet has income at the end of day, week, month whatever through that investment (larger profit, realized gain, interest, dividends...none of which are on a paycheck)....are they a sahp or wohp?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 09-04-1997
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:07pm
Why would you assume she would be forced to retire rather than she would be choosing to change jobs if she moved to a different area?
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Registered: 07-18-2007
In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:09pm
Thanks, Lois.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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In reply to: peteynjoeysmom
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 3:12pm
Why is that necessary?

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