Guiltathon! Woo hoo!

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Registered: 07-31-2008
Guiltathon! Woo hoo!
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Thu, 07-31-2008 - 11:30am

I started lurking on this board when I decided to return to teaching, and already I’ve seen the following scenario played out in excess: Person A says, “I avoid daycare because I want to raise my own children” and Person B responds with, “Are you saying people who work don’t raise their own children?” Cue drama.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 11:35am
Who's going to "win"? Anyone who thinks more broadly about her choices as a result, and is less critical of the choices of others.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 11:36am

<Maybe the SAHs should understand that, for some families, working parents are better parents, and maybe use the phrase “help to raise” when referencing daycare. Maybe the WOHs should curb the defensiveness and come to terms with the idea that daycare workers, especially the good ones, have something to do with raising children. >


I think that raising is so much more than taking care of immediate needs.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 11:36am

If you had lurked here for long you would see that there are many many of us who joyfully and openly and honestly welcome the role that daycare has played in helping to raise our children with us for those few years -- I have said time and time again that I always felt daycare was a team with me and there wre times they knew infinitely more than I do - and I also feel that the influences on liza extend to her acting teachers, her teachers, her soccer coach, even her clarinet teacher who single handedly turned Lizas attitude around yesterday and probably saved me from selling her to the gypsies.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 11:38am
Good answer!! :-)

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 11:44am

Why are you lumping all wohs into one box and all sahs in another?

Lurk a bit longer and you will find nuances amongst all statuses

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 11:48am

<I think that raising is so much more than taking care of immediate needs.


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 11:54am
You said it so much better than I did :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2000
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 12:00pm

I'm not even going to bother posting. Both of you said it better than I could. And Katie can answer for me as well.

CHris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2008
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 12:09pm
I guess that's where I'm confused--why the word "raise" carries so much weight. Then again, I'm new to the debate and the board, and no one has ever asked me who's going to raise my children when
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 12:19pm

Well.

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