Guiltathon! Woo hoo!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2008
Guiltathon! Woo hoo!
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Thu, 07-31-2008 - 11:30am

I started lurking on this board when I decided to return to teaching, and already I’ve seen the following scenario played out in excess: Person A says, “I avoid daycare because I want to raise my own children” and Person B responds with, “Are you saying people who work don’t raise their own children?” Cue drama.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 4:22pm
You should see the response from a SAHM when my reply is, "Oh really? I WOH so I can raise my kids." They don't like it one little bit.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 4:25pm
In our case, our nanny really helps us raise our children.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 4:25pm

Heck, now I'm raising two of them -- another friend just called and needed me to watch her DS this afternoon.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-06-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 4:28pm

I don't know if I agree that a parent can take total credit for how messed up or perfect a child turns out.....


I recall that when my daughter was quite young(say under 10.....)


that I used to feel that a child is "a direct reflection of the parenting".

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 4:34pm
If I'd been in your place, I would have really cut down the time my dd spent with my parents and beefed up the time spent in daycare.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 4:56pm
Well, your anecdote about your DD would be more persuasive as data if it weren't for the many, many families I've known where all the children had the same SAHM, and the children ended up quite different from each other.
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Registered: 09-06-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 5:06pm

I agree this would have been a good option..and being that it was over a decade ago I don't recall exactly my thought process except that by the time she was 2 I was a single parent(at the ripe old age of 22), struggling with crappy low pay job(s) and happy to have my parents who charged me nothing for childcare...


Plus...my parents are incredibly loving people with the best intentions...and they stilll do not fully understand how unhealthy their lifestyle is and what a great impact it has had on their health(or poor health is more accurate).

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-06-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 5:21pm

I think that the hard wiring usually comes from the influences that a child has around them at a young age.

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 5:23pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 5:29pm
A little of both.

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