Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:25am

And the reason dd1 would be out of piano and tutoring is because she isn't failing and after 4 years of the lessons, she still doesn't enjoy them and she still doesn't want to go.


I side with you dh on this one.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:27am

Beth, have you read all her posts?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:36am

Um, you forgot that you already mentioned that he IS willing to pay for things that he feels are beneficial to the girls.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:38am

I would agree with you, but the reason he can't retire is because SHE isn't willing to part with her money (she claims to have to work forever, but given what she claims to be retirement, I highly doubt that).

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:49am

The more she posts, the more that comes out.


Apparently, he doesn't agree with the activities and in essence, refuses to be the "bad guy" for his oldest.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 7:00am
The problem is Little Bobby being Jealous of the Time and Money and Effort Mommy devotes to Little Susie. Little Bobby is too old for that (by like decades) and ITS NOT HIS MOMMY anyway.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 7:03am
Actually she thinks their school is a quite good one and their daughter is an average performer in it - see post 700 in this thread - she doesn't think that's acceptable from her daughter and disagrees with the math program they have implemented. See post 12523.424. You could see it as "he doesn't want to spend the money on his daughters that he did on his sons for school" OR you could say he doesn't see that it is worth spending the money for private school for two children already doing well in a good public district when he is 57 and still doesn't have their college and his retirement funded.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 7:05am
Pssst. Just wait till some of these ladies are handed the next big book, with highlighted lines explaining how important it is not to leave the burden of wage earning to the husband...how in fact it behooves a woman to earn more than her husband...while managing all the domestic responsiblity....and basically told that whatever they've been doing is obviously not enough because the poor hubby is too stressed being the sole wage earner and the wife needs to get with the program.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 7:06am
Just don't forget to highlight the really important parts.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 7:17am
Oh no, its a perfectly good way to kick someone OUT of passive aggressive mode.

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