Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:15am

Either we are reading different posts or reading the posts differently.


I see a father who is fully supportive of continueing lessons for a dd who enjoys them but is NOT supportive of continuing lessons for a child who does not like them and/or he feels does not need them.


I think that is a tad different then being a selfish cad who wants only for himself.


It appears to me that out of the two speaking ONLY of the girls...he is actually the one

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:17am
I should also mention that I think I agree with every one of your posts on this entire thread and your reasoning behind what you have said.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:17am

Pssstt...over here..come a little closer...yup, lean right in:


If he felt that way, he would actually tell

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:24am

I strive to parent as well or, dare I say, even better than my own parents in all areas.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:24am

Maybe you would, maybe you wouldn't.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:27am
How old are you? How long have you been married?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:29am
She should be less tolerant of her DH's inaction because his behavior falls below even the minimal acceptable threshhold for a parent.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:30am
I'm dying to hear what you think the right approach is in dealing with a passive aggressive person.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:32am

And quality of parenting isn't determined by the number of extra-curricular activities your child engages in, particularly extra-curriculars that she doesn't enjoy.


Virgo
 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 9:32am

I guess you haven't been in a marriage where it's a constant drain having to be the less needy partner.

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