Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:01am

WRT your dd1's reading, you're comparing two very different reading skills and determining that she's doomed to reading failure because of her performance in one specific skill (that you've taken out of context).


Using cues such as pictures, sentence & story context to figure out what an unknown word might mean IS a comprehension strategy.


Using decoding to de-code an unknown word, absent of other contextual cues is merely about pronunciation. . .it has nothing to do with the ability to determine through context what a word means.

Virgo
 
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:01am

Some things I am average in.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:03am

Where did I say

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:05am
I'm not being defensive.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:05am

Please do tell me how disagreeing with the things she wants to do as being flawed.


Because by that standard...she is flawed for disagreeing with him.


Disagreeing with your co-parent is not being flawed.

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:08am
Why couldn't you live with a liberal Democrat? Are politics so important to your lifestyle?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:10am

Misled?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:11am
So how long do you try things before you determine you're only average or you downright stink at something?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:26am

I so agree.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:41am
I don't know if you play a musical instrument, but as someone who plays the piano, I can tell you that learning a musical instrument is not necessarily the best way to learn confidence, especially if she is not very good. It's a lot of tedious hard work for very little short term gain. Even if she learns a piece, is she very good at it? How does she feel about performing? How does she feel about her lessons? I don't recall my lessons to be that enjoyable (mostly because I didn't prepare for them well). I certainly don't recall my recitals or competitions to be enjoyable (though I did prepare for those and I even won some competitions). I also don't recall the movie version of someone sitting at the piano, turning out a tune, and getting "self-enjoyment" out of it. Now, I do, but back when I was a kid, not really. I think a better activity to build confidence and to try to overcome a "defeatist" attitude may be something that she's sort of good at it but can get better with practice/work and something that has a little more short term gratification.

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