Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm |
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Okay I checked out both posts and in 700 of this thread, I must have missed the part where she said it was a good school, there is a whole paragraph about how bad the
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I think he REALLY wants out of working for some reason, and I suspect the reason goes deeper than just laziness or a sense of having done his time. Is there an issue at work?
Is he in a reasonable place to find another job if he lost this one, or is his skill set out of date? Also, a weird left field thing, but has a contemporary friend/relative/coworker of his died recently?
I still think there is depression here in some guise, most likely in the form of "Is this really all there is for me?" Of course, he is really passive-aggressive, so he's never going to admit that to anyone who doesn't know the right buttons to push to get it out of him. A counselor (or maybe a bartender) that exploited his need for praise would probably get the whole story.
A couple of other issues: How did he get along with his dad, Mr. I-Can-Do-Anything-I-Set-My-Mind-To?, and also, what caused the end of his first marriage? Thar's clues in those hills, I'd put money on it.
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