Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 11:52am
Perhaps b/c this one is REALLY expensive? Finding a less expensive alternative would still give her the goal-achievement practice she needs, but could also be a gesture in the direction of ramping up the retirement savings machine.

You know, one that I was thinking of that would still give her math practice plus lots of exposure to new things, might eliminate some of the burden on you, and might even give her something to share with DH? Cooking lessons. They could even take them together if you could talk DH into the idea that some culinary adventure would be good for all of you. It is something that lends itself to legitimate and vocal praise, can be practiced at home, and it has an immediate and practical byproduct.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 11:55am
Average isn't a bad word.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 11:57am
Well then you made the mistake of marrying the wrong person.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 11:59am
I guess I just married someone whose beliefs were close to my own so that when it came to the big issues (children, where we should live, etc) we would most likely come to agreement.
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:00pm

How old are you? 33


How long have you been married?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:00pm
It depends.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:01pm
Thanks, I appreciate the info.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:02pm

Gotcha, I apologize...I misunderstood

Misty

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:04pm
Oh yeah that's a nice thing to say. "Since they don't agree with us, I bet they are dumb and ignorant"
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:09pm
Because the beliefs and ideals that go behind being a liberal democrat totally clash with my own.

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