Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:09pm

Some of what cocoa mentioned was presented by her many moons ago.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:10pm
The honest answer is that I find it beneficial to me.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:11pm
Thanks, but that post took me nearly 3 hours to write, and it still has a couple of typos in it that I missed. I started it after I put DS to bed, and you see when I finished it.

(Of course, I was working on a small bit of real work at the time; posting at night keeps me awake while I wait for processes to complete.)

I haven't lost all hope, but I need to find a level of function that my family can live with for the time being. DH's pay increase means that we will be able to afford domestic help, which will lessen the burden on him. I'm going to take a break from chasing a solution for a while, and give some medical advances time to work out their kinks before trying again.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:11pm
Do you understand the concept?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:15pm

Well thankfully so did I, when it comes to core beliefs that is.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:15pm

Average isn't the goal , but if your child has been shown to be average in something after extensive instruction, maybe it's time to find what he excels in, not keep pushing him to excel in what he is average at. I think people are born being good at certain things.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:15pm
Do you mean, for example, that a liberal Democrat is more likely to ...... not value a SAHP?

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:16pm
Yikes, two non-compromisers. Though I guess that's probably better than just one compromiser, which would wind up creating a controller/doormat situation. Thanks for the honest answer.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:20pm

For a good long while, depending on if I am truely enjoying the process or not.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:20pm
I see that you think she is right on.

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