Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Registered: 04-06-2004
Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 1:31pm
I agree. Especially not confidence-building if it took your 6 YO sister about 2 months to learn more than you did in 4 years.
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 1:32pm
Excellent post.
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 1:45pm
Yes, this part breaks my heart when I think about it. I can't believe it's anything but extremely painful (and embarassing) for the older DD to be outshone by her *younger* sister in an activity that DD#1 dislikes and is being forced to do. That is just the ultimate insult to a child's fragile ego.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 1:46pm

I thought all of this is about what is the best interests of the children.

SUS

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 2:17pm
"I generally disagree with liberal democrats on almost everything, not just politics." You might just be wrong about that, LOL. I'm a liberal dem and probably agree with you more often than I do fellow liberal PJM.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 2:20pm
Looking around in vain for where I said he wasn't a big part of the problem. Also looking around in vain for anyone who thought it was the right thing for him to give her said book.

She says she doesn't want him to get in gear or get out. I believe her, why can't you?

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 2:36pm
Apparently there are a lot of subscribers to the theory "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle,"
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 2:38pm
Here's my surefire way to cure yourself of perfectionism: have four children.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 2:47pm
In this case, because the woman is the only one willing to consider the needs of anyone other than herself. When the man comes up with some need other than his need to do as little as possible his opinion can count. First, he needs to get one.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 2:54pm
He's not changing anything. He could. He could pick up 50% of the domestic duty and ask for some of her extra time to then be spent with and on him, her and them as a couple. He's not willing to do anything to that end.

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