Is is "hard" being a sahm?

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Is is "hard" being a sahm?
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 1:25pm
For many years now, I have heard the claim that being a sahm is the hardest job in the world. I never chimed in, because I didn't know first hand. I stayed home for 6 weeks when my twin daughters, Sophia and Stephanie (almost 4) were born. And that was hard, because I had 2 newborns. Now, almost 4 years later, I have resigned my job and am staying home again. I can god-honestly say that I don't know what's so hard about this. I personally feel like I am on easy street, but maybe that's because I haven't been at it that long. I feel like I am on vacation. It takes no longer than a couple hours a day to do the housework, and the rest of the time is free time for me and the girls. We have gone to the park, the zoo, chuck e cheeses, and I know not every day is going to be like this, but I feel like I am making up for lost time. My children seem happy and relaxed. The only hard thing about this is that they have gotten into some pretty raging fights with each other, but the fights have ended with quick intervention. I guess I am just wondering how long before this becomes "The hardest job in the world" and I start looking like a zombie, complaining that my husband doesn't help me, and so on? Or do I seriously have the choice not to turn into that? Also, do you think that at the rate I am going, I am at risk for getting bored staying home?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 4:13pm

<< I feel that if I were a SAHM in the future, the house would be immaculate, kids have homecooked meals, and I was in tip top shape (if kids in school during the day). >>


Congratulations are in order.

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Bridget & Ethan (5)

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 4:14pm
Umm...I hope you two have exchanged photos. If hers travels and yours travels...
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 4:22pm
Bwhahahahahahahahahahaha!
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 4:37pm
Those are Republican qualities?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 4:52pm
If you get divorced and your dd ever gets the slightest inkling that piano lessons played even a minor role, I'll bet $$$$ she would rather sledghammer the piano than play it. If she gets an inkling that tutoring played a similar (if, to you, minor) role, I'll bet $$$$ she might flunk a class just to rebel against the tutoring.

Before you get divorced, there will be arguments. I'm sure you will take great pains to make sure your kids don't hear these at all. But if dd overhears one and hears the words "piano lessons" or tutoring, then it may seem to her that these things cost her her Daddy. And the fallout from that will be ugly in the extreme.

You may be able to pull off a divorce without your kids ever overhearing any arguments and she may go the rest of her childhood without ever hearing "piano lessons" or "tutoring" in connection with the divorce, but the odds are low.

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 5:01pm

But she is not ever going to remove the H from her life or her dd's life, he MAY do it, but she CAN NOT.

SUS

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 5:03pm
Learn to read.
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 5:04pm
I don't mind being the less needy partner. I always have been low maintenance but I'll be damned if I'm going to be told my main purpose in life is to act as an ego stroke for dh.
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 5:05pm
Nice theory but wrong.
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 5:11pm
"Why change what is working?" Because the piano lessons may come up in pre or post divorce arguments that dd may overhear. And then it will become clear to her that what she accomplished on the piano was the loss of her Daddy.

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